Lucia16 Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 I thought it was extremely rare. We broke up almost 2 weeks ago because of the distance (I met him while I was studying abroad) but we still talk and we get along well. Now I am in my country. Yesterday we were talking and he told me "You need to sleep with someone and tell me if he was better than me" And then when I told him that I am not interested in dating someone because he was te nicest he told me "You just have to keep looking, I am sure they exist" I don't understand why he is acting like that and then he told me that he probably will not find a girlfriend and even if he does he will dump her because of me, because "no one is better than me" It means he really never cared about me?
ExpatInItaly Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 My first bet would be it's because he's already done it or is going to do it himself, and doesn't want to feel guilty. I personally would not be discussing matters like this with an ex. You are now both free to date or sleep with other people, and it really isn't the other's business anymore.
stillafool Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 Yes if this is the surfer guy he definitely is seeing other women. He is being kind to you. Actually any guy telling you to find and sleep with another guy is over you no matter what else he says. Men who love you do not want another guy to even touch you.
Redhead14 Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 I thought it was extremely rare. We broke up almost 2 weeks ago because of the distance (I met him while I was studying abroad) but we still talk and we get along well. Now I am in my country. Yesterday we were talking and he told me "You need to sleep with someone and tell me if he was better than me" And then when I told him that I am not interested in dating someone because he was te nicest he told me "You just have to keep looking, I am sure they exist" I don't understand why he is acting like that and then he told me that he probably will not find a girlfriend and even if he does he will dump her because of me, because "no one is better than me" It means he really never cared about me? Head games . . . Foreigner! Tell him to get his head out of his ass and you won't play his game anymore. Go NO CONTACT, now.
HereNorThere Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 Did you two mutually break-up because of the "distance" or did you dump him? It makes a world of difference in deciphering this.
Lois_Griffin Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 He's trying to tell you in a nice way to move on. He already has.
Nilfiry Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 It should not matter whether he really cared about you or not. You should do yourself a favor and not read too deeply into these things. If you have broken up, then you should take these things as casual banter between friends.
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