smile95 Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 is it possible that I am experiencing this pain and it is not your typical break up pain. it seems so strong. I am so miserable right now. I want to be able to talk to him and tell him how I feel, but he will ignore me and make me more upset. How am I ever going to get over this? Anyone ever read any good books that helped get over someone. I think the part that is hard is he never told me why or never even broke up with me? he just starteed to ignore me. I have asked for even a simple text if he wanted me to leave him alone and he will not even do that! Staying busy helps, but days like today I do not even see a reason to be here.
johan Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 Hang in there, Beth. You know there's no standard way to make it feel all better, just like there's no way to advise someone how to make a broken arm go away all at once. Try to remember there will be bad, hard days, and there will be better, easier days. Sooner or later the bad days will go away.
Author smile95 Posted June 5, 2005 Author Posted June 5, 2005 thanks...I am really counting on time....it better work!
dgiirl Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 Beth, time will work. You'll bounce back and forth, but it will get better. If you need to cry, scream, yell, punch a pillow, go wild! Just keep an eye on yourself and if you feel like you're going to lapse into depression, speak to a friend on the phone. I'm letting it all out. Even writting stupid posts on LS lol Atleast I'm sticking to NC. There's not much else you can do. Just keep moving!
Author smile95 Posted June 5, 2005 Author Posted June 5, 2005 oh I have to stick to NC. It is like a game. At work I cross off each NC day with a highligher and get such joy in crossing off each one! Everyone checks on me to make sure I do not have any un-highlighted days! Time will work, but only if I get some type of closure i think? I think "how could he just stop loving me " and then remember when I asked him that the other 5 times, he would say he didnot and never will. but this time feels different. I think? I want to move on and be happy with someone who appreciates me. so time will make everything fade? won't i wonder about him. Does he not think of me???
dgiirl Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 You wont find closure from him. No matter what he says to you, you'll still be lingering trying to interpret what he says. You need to find closure from yourself.
Author smile95 Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 i wish i wanted closure. Maybe in time i will. Everyone in my life hates him, but me.
miss-gonewest Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Beth honey, I know how you feel... I just broke up on the weekend and am still in my first 48 hours of being single. I feel sick, I can't eat and am on the verge of tears. I feel angry, frustrated and confused. Above all else, I can't believe that breaking up is the best thing for us.... I want to email him, I want to give him a cuddle and I want him to be my friend... However, we don't always get what we want in life and I know that each day I will feel a little bit better and a little bit stronger, and sooner or later I will wake up one day and feel perfectly fine, happy and confident without him in my life. If it distracts you or makes you feel better, post her with your thoughts and your questions - you may feel better getting your feelings off your chest. Good luck - I'm going through it all with you babe!
Author smile95 Posted June 7, 2005 Author Posted June 7, 2005 thank you! I am just hoping that even tho I have no answers as to why he just stopped talkling to me, I will still have my feelings fade over time. Maybe I will not care after a while. I am just scared i think. I know deep down i did nothing and this is one of his games, but it still hurts like crazy! Good luck to you-keep eating! I made the mistake of stopping and now I am really sick
AndrewJ Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Beth 5201, The high lighter idea is cool. It gives u a warm innner glow to know another day has passed and u have gronw stronger by not giving in to ur ego. Be strong do things u nevr ususlly do, and meet new peolpe, Ibeleive going and meeting new peolpe hepls emensesly. All the best, sorry to hear about ur breakup miss gonewest. Hang in there time willtell
em88 Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 miss-gonewest and beth5201, going through the exact same thing as u guys. been a week. its hard. im up and down. but each day i see things in a better perspective and as hard as it is, im trying to keep my head up high. theres nothing else you can do except know in your heart that there is someone better (although we prob hate to think that right now and we just want our old bfs back and not anyone else) and that going through this is something that is possible and something that will make us stronger. as cliche as it sounds. and you know, its not as if its easy for me to do either. its damn hard. but just look ahead. its all you can do.
newbby Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 beth, its seems to me he didnt say it was over because he wants to keep you as an option. you are right it is a game, he knows that if he ignores you you will be wondering wondering worrying, then he will show up when he feels like it and you will be so relieved and you will so want to believe he wants you. if he has done this before then it is a tried and tested method for him. what you wanna do is make sure you are ready for him this time!
scarlyjones Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Ya know the way you've been thinking of the good times you had with him???? Ya know how you have been sitting at home wondering what he's doing right that very moment?? Ya know how you think about how hes ignoring you now and acting like he doesnt care and how its SOOO different than the way he USED to act?? You know how your doing all that???? Well,....stop. What you are doing is dwelling. Grieving. Nobody died. You need to give yourself the FUN you deserve. Go out. See a movie. GO to dinner. Go get a drink or 9. And YES,...even if you have to go by yourself. Have FUN. This is YOUR time now. HIS LOSS!!
Author smile95 Posted June 7, 2005 Author Posted June 7, 2005 andrew--it is fun to cross off each day-today was day 13!!! How could I mess up such a pretty calendar now!!! I am on a roll!!! lol Scarly-how did you know exactly what I do each day???? I do everything you say. I am so hurt, I actaully feel my heart aching! After talking to some people, I have to prepare myself for his call one day. If it is a bad day for me, i will not answer. If it is a good day, I will and put him in his placr for once! I believe he will flip out to see I am not taking his crap anymore.....only thing is....that is when he purs it on thick with all the charm, but I least i can recognize it now.
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