eshanga_desilva Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 A few months ago my girlfriend's housemate opened a letter which had a bill for the house without her permission. It was addressed to my gf so she got irritated at her housemate. After this incident tension started to build up. The housemate always sits in the living room watching TV and after the above incident my gf found it hard to tolerate. My gf is a sweet and innocent person loved by all but after all this she hasn't been herself. She's been feeling that her housemate has complete control and power over the house and this upsets her even more. She cracked the other day and started to retaliate by spending as much time as she can in the living room. Now whenever the housemate is out there watching TV, my gf is out there reading and it's not like they are doing it as a leisure activity but more like trying to offend each other. This has been upsetting me very much and I feel like it could escalate to the point one would have to move out. My gf does not even spend time in her room - which she used to love. I tried to talk some sense into my gf and I was successful to a certain level. I need more advice regarding this situation... Thanks in advance
smackie9 Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 Your GF needs to grow up and take some responsibility. Instead of acting like a deceived little child, she needs to be an adult and either kick her roommate out or she can find a new place to live.
Nilfiry Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 As long as the housemate is paying for the bill, I do not see it as such a big deal, but your GF and housemate need to talk and set ground rules. You should probably be there to mediate. If things do not work out civilly, then the owner of the house has all the say. There is no reason to play such games. It is my way or the highway, as the saying goes.
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 You stay out of it. You don't live there. Perhaps it would be best if those 2 no longer lived together but that's their business, not yours. Opening somebody else's mail is a federal offense.
dispatch3d Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 I'd say they are at the point of not being able to live with each other anymore. That said I'd just stay out of it if I were you. This problem is definitely deeper than just one opened mail, and isn't going to get fixed anytime soon. fwiw I agree with you. She shouldn't have opened the bill but your girlfriend needs to take a chill pill.
No_Go Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 OP, how long have you been dating your GF? The things with my former roommate (who all in all I like a lot) escalated after I started dating my BF. My roommate start trying to interfere in many ways, and also did things like opening my boxes, entering my room, getting into petty fights about cleaning chores... It was just the tension of the extra person (my BF, who funnily was not even visiting our house, he preferred to hang out in his place), and the fact I had less time to spend with her. Is she on a lease? IMO, these situations with roommates are too uncomfortable to try to repair, and the easiest way is to move somewhere else if her situation permits. A few months ago my girlfriend's housemate opened a letter which had a bill for the house without her permission. It was addressed to my gf so she got irritated at her housemate. After this incident tension started to build up. The housemate always sits in the living room watching TV and after the above incident my gf found it hard to tolerate. My gf is a sweet and innocent person loved by all but after all this she hasn't been herself. She's been feeling that her housemate has complete control and power over the house and this upsets her even more. She cracked the other day and started to retaliate by spending as much time as she can in the living room. Now whenever the housemate is out there watching TV, my gf is out there reading and it's not like they are doing it as a leisure activity but more like trying to offend each other. This has been upsetting me very much and I feel like it could escalate to the point one would have to move out. My gf does not even spend time in her room - which she used to love. I tried to talk some sense into my gf and I was successful to a certain level. I need more advice regarding this situation... Thanks in advance
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