Pan_blanca Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 So My girlfriend (25) broke up with me about a week ago. We had been dating almost a year and a half. I'm in the navy and its long distance. She has talked about moving in and progressing things farther, but she has never moved anywhere on her own and by moving states away with me basically she would be losing her safety net of her family. (We are lesbians and her family isn't exactly supportive). Well anyways, recently she got her bachelors and is trying to study to get into a masters program. She also just got her first real full time job and so she is pretty stressed. The reason for our breakup is that she doesn't feel she has the time to get her **** together and put in the effort necessary to keep up a LDR, because she knows I'm not happy with minimal effort. And realistically I mean they do take a lot more work than a regular relationship. Now my issue is that she keeps texting me. Sometimes just small talk, sometimes she is reminiscing and saying she misses me and loves me and is a ****tard for breaking up with me. So I don't really know what to do. I mean ideally I want to get back together but I'm not trying to be her backup plan either. And I haven't contacted her. I guess really I'm looking for any insight. Especially from anyone who has ever needed space. I know there are a thousand horrible reasons she could "need space". But what on the off chance that she is overwhelmed. I'm pretty good at the no contact thing. I mean it's hard but I'm stubborn.
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 If she has time to text you remind her that you love her & that she has time for an LDR. Yes, she may have to "slack off" for a bit while she's adjusting to her new full time job but if you love her, can't you find it in your heart to compromise? Accept what she can give in the short term & gradually build things back up as she masters her new routine. Heaven knows if you get deployed & are in a forward area you aren't going to have all the leisure time in the world to talk to her. Be safe & thanks for your service.
justwhoiam Posted January 17, 2016 Posted January 17, 2016 You just need to text her: I moved on already. Please focus on your studies. I wish you all the best.
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