Why are some guys not into drinking/strip clubs?

[Bobbi7]

The last guy that I was seeing was telling me about one of his best friends-he said that they went to Vegas together for a gaming tournament and that his buddy didn't drink alcohol and wasn't interested in going to strip clubs. Of course, he wanted to go to the club, but his friend wasn't. I thought that was kind of odd..I mean, yeah, some guys don't like to drink, but for a guy not wanting to go into a strip club in Vegas??? From what I know, he's single..why wouldn't he be into that? Is he a goody two shoes? A religious type?

[CarrieT]

My husband is not a goody-two-shoes and far from a conservative. We met on a BDSM site.

 

For him, looking at plastic women in a stripper setting is pointless. My last BF was really into hosting clients at strip clubs so I had my fair share of them on business trips we took.

 

Not everyone is the same nor is everyone turned on by the same thing. Just like some people like hardcore horror films, others prefer spy dramas. Every guy doesn't have to be interested in seeing naked women dance - and there is no reason to pigeonhole them into being religious.

[mrldii]

The men I've known been with who don't enjoy it (3 out of 4) were most assuredly not "goody two shoes", nor religious.

 

The reason was simple: because each was perfectly capable of getting a woman in real life to get naked and have good sex, there was no reason to pay good money to see a woman [semi] naked who pretends she wants to have sex with him.

 

[carhill]

The last guy that I was seeing was telling me about one of his best friends-he said that they went to Vegas together for a gaming tournament and that his buddy didn't drink alcohol and wasn't interested in going to strip clubs.

Yep, they were there for the gaming tournament. Some people don't drink.

Of course, he wanted to go to the club, but his friend wasn't.

He could have gone alone. Clubs don't mind.

I thought that was kind of odd..I mean, yeah, some guys don't like to drink, but for a guy not wanting to go into a strip club in Vegas???

 

I can see how it could be perceived as weird; IME, we went to Vegas a lot and my exW had friends there and I can't recall ever thinking about clubs of any sort. Some people are just like that.

From what I know, he's single..why wouldn't he be into that? Is he a goody two shoes? A religious type?

 

Could be any of those. Or none. Most of my male friends were into strip clubs when they were younger. I never had any interest. Different strokes. I don't think religion or socializing were in play but perhaps they could have been subconsciously. I tended to look at real women as potential dates and mates, not forms of entertainment. Fantasy while thumbing through Playboy? Sure. Then again, I didn't drink much when young and drinking was also part of the club life then so there really wasn't much there for me. I'd rather spend my money racing my car at the track. Missed out I guess.

[Woggle]

It's a waste of money and most places have overpriced liquor that I can get for half the price at a liquor store.

[anonymousbear00101100]

Not religious or a goody two shoes. I don't always enjoy getting drunk bar the occasional frat party, and I'd rather have sex than watch some moderately attractive woman get naked on stage for a bunch of dudes.

[carhill]

It's a waste of money and most places have overpriced liquor that I can get for half the price at a liquor store.

Ha, ha, yeah but Vegas, at least the old Vegas I remember, was pretty liberal with the alcohol, free or cheap because, well, those strip clubs or, heck anyplace, had some sort of gambling and they wanted people to gamble and alcohol makes their wallet fall open

 

I may have gotten some outstanding eyefulls just from the cocktailers stopping by and offering free drinks while I was playing my obligatory ten bucks for hours on the nickel machines. You know, appease the wife. Heh.

[Gold Pile]

If the guy is inexperienced, he may find a strip club intimidating. Those that tout their unwillingness to visit the club, usually haven't been to one to see what they are missing. A GOOD club with exceptionally hot women is something that everyman should experience at least a few times. The music, the sexy outfits (or nude) clothing on a beautiful woman that you don't know, and the unabashed sexuality of it all. Hot women to the left, to the right, and in front of you. I was never into touching, it was just the visual of it all

[Woggle]

Ha, ha, yeah but Vegas, at least the old Vegas I remember, was pretty liberal with the alcohol, free or cheap because, well, those strip clubs or, heck anyplace, had some sort of gambling and they wanted people to gamble and alcohol makes their wallet fall open

 

I may have gotten some outstanding eyefulls just from the cocktailers stopping by and offering free drinks while I was playing my obligatory ten bucks for hours on the nickel machines. You know, appease the wife. Heh.

 

Casinos and cruise ships if you buy the drink package are the places you can drink without going broke.

[GravityMan]

I suspect that many men are indifferent about strip clubs. Especially men who don't have any trouble attracting, dating and forming real romantic and sexual relationships with women. Those men don't hate or mind strip clubs...heck some of them may even go once in awhile (usually with friends) and have fun. However they aren't really FANS of the strip club experience. If the club were to one day go out of business, the guys won't lose any sleep over that...they'll file it in the "Well, whatever. S**t happens." folder and then promptly move on.

[loverboy69]

Even though I'm gay I enjoy seeing beautiful women dancing. Who doesn't?

 

I have a straight (single) friend who gets nervous and irritated whenever any of us bring the subject up of going to a strip club. He's friendly, outgoing, loves to drink, talks about sex and women all the time, party etc. but for some reason the thought of going to a strip club rubs him the wrong way?

 

I guess some guys just don't like to go. Is there an underlying reason? Probably but it's their choice.

[Robert Z]

The last guy that I was seeing was telling me about one of his best friends-he said that they went to Vegas together for a gaming tournament and that his buddy didn't drink alcohol and wasn't interested in going to strip clubs. Of course, he wanted to go to the club, but his friend wasn't. I thought that was kind of odd..I mean, yeah, some guys don't like to drink, but for a guy not wanting to go into a strip club in Vegas??? From what I know, he's single..why wouldn't he be into that? Is he a goody two shoes? A religious type?

 

 

Haha, with one exception, I had never been to a strip club until about four years ago.

 

Never had the need or desire. I did have to go to one once for work - a visiting dignitary wanted to go to one. Got plenty of sex before I got married [never enough but I never even thought about a strip club] and never considered doing such a thing after getting married. I would have felt like I was cheating.

Edited January 14, 2016 by Robert Z

[loveweary11]

Ooooh.

 

I can field this one!

 

As a guy who doesn't drink much anymore and who doesn't go to strip clubs (except as a last resort when in a strange area just to have guaranteed company while having 2 drinks... let me explain:

 

1) I have no desire to watch chicks dancing around and lap dances do nothing for my wang.Unless I'm hooking up with a girl, I'm really not getting turned on by them hustling for cash around the club. Now, I've definitely had a stripper as an ex, but didn't go to the club. I got the attention for free at home. It doesn't interest me at all to pay for a chick to grind on me. That's free normally.

 

2) Being really health conscious, I don't drink much unless socially. I have like 2 drinks in a strip club, nurse them, talk to the girls and tip the cool ones for their conversation and time they spent talking to me. I also buy them drinks. They are at work after all... they deserve to get paid.

 

I go maybe 2x a year when I'm in a strange place, don't know anyone and Tinder didn't get me a good match.

[thefooloftheyear]

The reason was simple: because each was perfectly capable of getting a woman in real life to get naked and have good sex, there was no reason to pay good money to see a woman [semi] naked who pretends she wants to have sex with him.

 

 

Eh....this is a myth....Just like good looking men don't use prostitutes....another myth....

 

Go to a high end strip club and its loaded with pro ball players and musicians...Even the low rent places have top tier guys...Some guys just like it.....and some don't...

 

Anyway...

 

I don't care for strip clubs...I have been to many of them over the years, mostly as a tag along with other guys that wanted to go;;;IT just seems cheesy to me...I feel bad for the women...I know that sounds crazy because some are making huge money doing it, but the whole process just seems silly....Bending over and picking up a bunch of dollar bills thrown at you by a bunch of idiots...eh...

 

And i love looking at women...s;)

 

As far as drinking goes, I don't drink and never really did...I might have gotten drunk less that I can count on one hand..My body doesnt tolerate it well, and thats good, as its just poison, IMO..

 

After working for years as a bouncer in college, I had a lifetimes worth of dealing with drunk, stupid people...I don't want to be around it, quite frankly,,,,

 

To each his own...

 

TFY

[carhill]

Yeah, of course far earlier in their M's, the guys I was using as examples were very married, generally quite successful and such clubs were relaxation or business lubrication or both. Nowadays they're mostly married over 30 years, some closer to 40 and it's spending time with the grandkids and great grandkids, not going to clubs. Still, it was very common for the young men. If I had to point to one switch it was probably an early one thrown for myself where sexual messages and sex with real people was imprinted as 'special' and not 'casual'. Of course, most kids in my generation said 'screw that!'

[OldRover]

I'm one that doesn't care for strip clubs. It does nothing for me, not entertaining, exciting or otherwise. Often overpriced and most of the people that go, I don't like to associate with.

 

I have never had trouble socially, dating, or being with a lady. I can think a million things that are more fun and exciting.

 

To each his own.

[mrldii]

I'm one that doesn't care for strip clubs. It does nothing for me, not entertaining, exciting or otherwise. Often overpriced and most of the people that go, I don't like to associate with.

 

I have never had trouble socially, dating, or being with a lady. I can think a million things that are more fun and exciting.

 

To each his own.

 

 

Yeah...I question the "myth" pronouncement, too...a "myth" is something that doesn't exist. The 75% of the men I've been with who didn't go because they didn't need/want it because - in their own words - were capable of successfully interacting with real woman, in real-world settings, one-on-one certainly DID exist, so there was nothing 'mythical' about them.

 

Actually, 100% of the men I've been with were real and DID exist; the fourth guy did go to clubs occasionally (even took me once when he and his work mates went), but even he did it because it was "a guys' thing to do"...and he didn't really get a wholehelluvalot out of it.

[Robert Z]

I only went to clubs for about two months. I was a bit curious, but more than that, it was part of a long-term strategy. I wanted to desensitize myself to beautiful, young, naked women. After 25 years of marriage to a woman who let herself go, ten years without sex, and the far too many years behind me, it was going to require a huge change in perspective to live the life I wanted to live. So, I went to hot-babe boot camp. And the funniest part is that it worked exactly as I had hoped. After about six weeks of hanging with strippers, spending endless hours buying drinks and talking, about 150 or so lap dances, and even getting to be friends with one [who became my barber and the hottest stripper in a top end club], I was perfectly comfortable and at ease with a naked bombshell or four standing around me.

Edited January 14, 2016 by Robert Z

[Shining One]

I'm not a fan of strip clubs myself. I'll go with the guys for a bachelor party, but I'd never go myself. If single, I'd much rather use the money to pick up a ONS instead of spending it on over-priced drinks and women I can only look at.

[Imported]

I like my alcohol, I do not drink to excess....most of the time.

 

 

Not into strip clubs. Rather go to regular bar/club with a good mix of people. A strip club is just a waste of time. Seeing a girl being paid to be naked doesn't do it for me.

[GunslingerRoland]

I'm not a prude by any means but I can count on one hand the number of times I've been to a strip club in the last 20 years. And that was for bachelor parties/birthday parties.

 

 

I went a few times with friends right after turning 18, but the novelty wore off real fast.

 

 

I drink alcohol, but there are a lot of reasons for people not too. (Recovering alcoholics, intolerance to it)

[Blanco]

I went with some friends on my 18th birthday. I feel like we went at least once a month for about a year after that. That was more than 10 years ago and I haven't been back since nor have I had any inclination.

 

In my situation, most of the dancers at the club around here aren't women I'd look at twice if they had clothes on. The overly artificial atmosphere lost its novelty after a while for me, too. I'm not a confrontational person by nature, so I find it exhausting to have to be on the defense (i.e. "No, I don't want a 'dance,' thanks.") for hours at a time.

[PegNosePete]

Imagine you're a really fat kid, who hasn't eaten for 3 days, and have no money.

 

You walk into your local sweet shop, and watch the owner opening all the sweet jars, giving them out to all the other customers, smelling them, hearing their rustle and crackle. Listening to the shopkeeper's well-practiced sales pitch, describing his juicy offerings in mouth-watering detail.

 

But you aren't allowed to touch. You aren't allowed to taste. You aren't allowed to take home. All you can do is sit there impotently and watch, all the while being reminded what a failure you are, because all the other kids have bellies full of tasty sweets.

 

That is why some guys don't like going to strip clubs.

[Shepp]

IT just seems cheesy to me...I feel bad for the women...I know that sounds crazy because some are making huge money doing it, but the whole process just seems silly....Bending over and picking up a bunch of dollar bills thrown at you by a bunch of idiots...eh...

^ Second all of this

 

I know the girls know what they're getting into but I would sure hate the thought of my daughter growing up to do that.

 

It seems a bit backward to me too. I'm not some radical male feminist or anything but i find the concept a bit outdated.

 

I think the thing is I've never been attracted to women who throw themselves at you. Like instant turnoff!! For me i like a girl who's really independent and capable. When I see a girl kick all the guys asses at something physical - instant turn on.

When you're in club and a girls like all over you I just lose all attraction for her. Strip clubs are just that but more so and your paying for the experience. I've been on mates stag and its just not my thing, at all!

Take that same chick out the club, give her a hammer and stick her in a field knocking in fence posts and telling me that I need to pick up the pace majorly to stand any chance of impressing her... and yeah her attractiveness has probably just gone up by 100,000,000,000 in my eyes.

 

PLUS..

• expensive drink
  
• Sh*t music
  
• In my experienced packed to the rafters with guys who seem like pr*cks, drooling like they've never seem a women before
  
• Its a weird situation to be in with other guys. Like my bedroom activities are private, I DO NOT share. Your shoulder to shoulder with some dude getting a lap dance - odd.
  
• Their not as hot as my missus (moot cause your talking about single guys, but I've loved her since I was still in school, she's always been the standard that all other women are judged by)
  

Give me a night on the beach with a bonfire, sat under the stars with my best mates, a couple of ciders, and maybe sipping whiskey out the bottle like when we were teens. That's a good night in my book, and id choose it a million times over a strip club

[hasaquestion]

I'm not a prude by any means but I can count on one hand the number of times I've been to a strip club in the last 20 years. And that was for bachelor parties/birthday parties.

 

 

I went a few times with friends right after turning 18, but the novelty wore off real fast.

 

 

I drink alcohol, but there are a lot of reasons for people not too. (Recovering alcoholics, intolerance to it)

 

Yeah, where I live when people turn 18 they go to Montreal to get drunk and go to strip clubs. Its a rite of passage. Once the "doing something you're not supposed to!!!!" aspect of a strip club loses its luster then I think most men don't care to go again.

 

I'd stretch that further and say the same reason you'd go for a bachelor party - not because its intrinsically much fun to watch strangers shake their plastic tits for you, just because doing something you won't be allowed pretty soon has a thrill to it.The reverse of turning 18.