DeeplyMissHer Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I've been going out with this girl for about a month, and been exclusive for almost two weeks. I see her every morning when I go to her work for a coffee and the last two weeks we have spent every night together. This weekend she is planning on spending the night at my place. I'm pretty stoked about that. Anyway yesterday we went out for supper. She said she really likes me, and we have a connection. She went on to say she wants me to meet her parents. They are coming into town next week. I said sure. I kind of think its kind of soon but it makes me feel good that she sees a possible future with me, especially this early in our relationship.
Grewd Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Unless you're intending to break it up you're going to meet them anyways. When you do it is irrelevant, especially after you've become exclusive since that's a commitment you know. Are you sure you're not thinking it's soon because you're slightly nervous? I met my girlfriends parents before we became exclusive, but it wasn't a secret we were seeing each other. I thought it didn't matter because I fully intended to make it a relationship. The situation was that we were going to see a movie, but we were too early so had to do something in the meantime. I suggested we could go to her place, she warned me her mother was home, I said it doesn't matter because I'll see her eventually anyways. So my first meeting with them was completely spontaneous, haha. So when do you meet the family? There's 2 answers, before being exclusive you do it when both of you feel okay about it. After becoming exclusive it's inevitable, but sooner rather than later.
Author DeeplyMissHer Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 I guess I'm going by past history. With my first girlfriend I met them when we were going out for almost three months. Her and I didn't really go many places outside of school until the three month mark. We broke up at six months. With my second girlfriend. We were together for 9 years. I met her parents at around the 2 1/2 month mark. They wouldn't allow her to go on an official date with me until they met me. She was only 14 so it was understandable. They liked me and despite my immaturity over the years they still like me. With my third girlfriend. I met her parents after 6 months. She said she didn't want to introduce me to family until she was sure we were together long term.
Grewd Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Well, your girlfriend obviously isn't against it. They haven't demanded seeing you before going on a date. First girlfriend you didn't exactly have experience, so it doesn't count. Not sure what past history you're referring to. Still doesn't matter, you became exclusive, she sees a future, hopefully you see a future and you're in it for the long run so still doesn't matter when.
Author DeeplyMissHer Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 I've been dating my new girlfriend for almost six weeks now. I met the parents last week. Things went well and I think they like me. I haven't seen my girlfriend since Sunday. I have my daughter over until Thursday. I know that six weeks in is too early to meet my daughter but since my daughter will be spending more time at my house since I'm settled in. It will be inevitable that she'll eventually meet her. She didn't meet my ex until we were together for 6 months. This time around I have my daughter more often. Any advice how to move forwards? My daughter's mother told me to use my discretion.
sunshine2 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I would not introduce your daughter to your new GF yet. I usually wait until about 4-6 months before I do that to make sure I am serious about him, we are exclusive and BF/GF. Dating is one thing, relationships are another. JMO
smackie9 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I think others had replied to this question.....if you are going to introduce them, do it at a public place not at the home she will be spending her time in. Let your place be a comfortable place for just you and your daughter....you can go love nest somewhere else with your GF. Just remember your daughter and HER needs are above yours.
Author DeeplyMissHer Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 I've been dating my new girlfriend for almost six weeks now. I met the parents last week. Things went well and I think they like me. I haven't seen my girlfriend since Sunday. I have my daughter over until Thursday. I know that six weeks in is too early to meet my daughter but since my daughter will be spending more time at my house since I'm settled in. It will be inevitable that she'll eventually meet her. She didn't meet my ex until we were together for 6 months. This time around I have my daughter more often. Any advice how to move forwards? My daughter's mother told me to use my discretion.
Gaeta Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 How old is your daughter? 6 weeks is too soon. Try to wait at 3 month mark. There is a lot of things to learn about someone in 3 months. Maybe things you don't want to deal with.
Author DeeplyMissHer Posted January 14, 2016 Author Posted January 14, 2016 How old is your daughter? 6 weeks is too soon. Try to wait at 3 month mark. There is a lot of things to learn about someone in 3 months. Maybe things you don't want to deal with. My daughter is 7. I didn't mean right now but when would be a good time. I was thinking mid February, around my Grandmothers birthday. I planned on introducing her to my extended family then.
CarrieT Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 I know that six weeks in is too early to meet my daughter but since my daughter will be spending more time at my house since I'm settled in. You KNOW that six weeks is too early so what is the rush? Please, for your daughter's sake and your new relationships' sake, try to wait to the four- or six-month mark...
PrettyEmily77 Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 I've been dating my new girlfriend for almost six weeks now. I met the parents last week. Things went well and I think they like me. I haven't seen my girlfriend since Sunday. I have my daughter over until Thursday. I know that six weeks in is too early to meet my daughter but since my daughter will be spending more time at my house since I'm settled in. It will be inevitable that she'll eventually meet her. She didn't meet my ex until we were together for 6 months. This time around I have my daughter more often. Any advice how to move forwards? My daughter's mother told me to use my discretion. Depends on your daughter's age, how long ago you broke up with your ex and how long-term you see your current relationship / how many GFs you intend to introduce to her. 1
CarrieT Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 Six weeks into a relationship is WAY TOO EARLY to introduce children. Try six months - when you know the relationship *may* have staying power.
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