leah0077 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 (edited) I just broke it off w/my boyfriend. I loved him, but he never really treated me that well. I've tried to break up w/him 3 times, but he keeps reappearing right when I'm starting to get over him. Because I have had strong feelings for him, I've let him back into my life, only to have him keep displaying the same selfish/cold/piggish behavior. I kind of lost it today/told him off; I had reached my limit. He is one of the most selfish guys I've ever dated. Unfortunately, I have "daddy issues", and therefore am attracted to jerks...Yay! How can I stop thinking of him? How can I force myself to never take him back? I blocked him from email/changed my number, but I want him to stop occupying my mind. How can I stop thinking of him/move on? If he tries to "accidentally" run into me for the 3rd time, can I just walk away? After all he's done, I don't even want to see his face right now. I feel like he's been emotionally abusive enough to warrant that type of reaction, and I have no desire to be sucked back into a crappy relationship. Any advice? Thank you. Edited January 13, 2016 by leah0077
loubelou73 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I'm having a hard time moving on from an ex too so really empathise. You deserve SO much better than this **** of a b/friend. Write this message on your mirror/kettle/bedroom door or somewhere, anywhere where you will see it every day to remind yourself. Get all the support you can around you - girlfriends/family/people who make you feel good about yourself, go out, enjoy yourself, let your hair down or take time out for yourself to heal. There is someone else out there who is better for you, I promise.
smudge21 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I reckon you're doing what all of us do at some point, and that's expecting ourselves to heal and then feeling even worse when we don't. You can't force these things and they're definitely not easier when the ex is in some way still in your life (or forcing themselves into it). It's a cliché, but truly time is the only healer here and it will happen. You just have to tell yourself "yeah, I'm not healed, I still have feelings but I will get better over time, I just have to focus on me and only me and let time take it's course". Kicking yourself for not healing will only make you hurt for longer so chin up and understand that we all go through this and heal at different times... but we all do heal eventually. 1
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