Yummm Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Hey guys! Some good news has come my way finally I met this really great girl a few weeks back who has given me the Sparks again! For those that don't know my ex (first relationship) broke up with me 10 months ago and I was blindsided. I took time out to heal, went on an incredible holiday, casually dated and then took a break for a few months after realising it wasn't helping me. Met this younger but incredibly mature girl on OLD after Focusing on me, career and family issues for a few months. Previously a lot of girls have been attracted to me but I have felt no spark in wanting to pursue further. She is lovely, great fun, has great morals and we just click. We are very much infatuated by eachother as the more we see one another the more we can't keep our hands off eachother! I'm taking things very maturely, going with my gut, slowly getting to know her more and more. We've seen eachother 4 times in 3 weeks and now she has gone back to university which is only an hour away. Since she has gone back she has been saying how she's very scared she is going to get hurt again as she always overthinks and gets way too emotionally invested and ultimately hurt. I keep trying to reassure her and be very honest and straight forward up front. I tell her that I also like her very much, the more I get to know her the more I like her on a deep level as well as the sexual tension being over the roof. I tell her that I'd like to continue to get to know her better and her being away at university and having to go see her on weekends is absolutely no problem for me. Currently in my life I have other important priorities such as family and career so having my own space - not making the same 'intense' mistake that I did in my last relationship so this is great for me. By the way we speak and how she brings it up she has a big fear of abandonment, as do most people, but I am not misleading her in anyway and do genuinely like her but definitely can't be rushed into a relationship. We've only been on 4 dates and I am very interested to see how things pan out with us as I like her alot and haven't felt like this for someone else since my ex. We agree that we won't be so forward and message everyday as the more she talks to me the more she's falling for me (her idea). I guess I'm just asking for some advice on the situation - am I doing the right thing? Is this a big red flag? Everybody has insecurities, but it feels like her over thinking and worrying is making such a positive situation in to a negative for the both of us. For those who say I may not be emotionally available - I am. After being single for 10 months now I am ready to find somebody that I can grow with and loving somebody again will be great! Had to use my phone so excuse the bad grammar and if you need more information please do ask! Much appreciated xo
Ami1uwant Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Be careful with her...if you show you really like her she likely pulls away snd runs. 1
Beach Guy Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Trust yourself and your instincts. Congratulations on your new relationship! 1
Author Yummm Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 Be careful with her...if you show you really like her she likely pulls away snd runs. Thank you for the response but I think you may have misread. The more I show her I like her the more she is 'falling' for me (I really hate that word but it's what she uses). She hasn't pulled back, nor does she want to, but she feels that she should to stop herself from getting hurt. Saying that, this morning she said she woke up with clarity and just wanted to make it clear that she is starting to care about me, which I responded with: I feel exactly the same, honest and open communication about feelings is the key. @Beach guy - thank you
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