AirGordon2245 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Basically I met a girl through mutual friends. We both seemed to get along great. She was showing signs of high attraction. Such as playing with her hair, exposing her next, asking me a lot of questions etc. Last weekend we were both at a bar for happy hour with a bunch of friends having a good time. She asked me to walk her to the train. After we got there we hugged, said goodnight and she told me to text her. Not even two hours later she's texting me bringing up random inside jokes we shared. I figured she's contacting me first because she probably wants me to ask her out on a date. So I asked what day she was free to get a drink? She told me her schedule was wide opened. I said how about we get a drink that coming up Tuesday. (it was Friday night when I asked her). At first she said "random but that's good with me lol" I was curious on why she thought it was random and she said she I thought I would've picked a weekend day next week. I told her I already had plans that weekend just to let her know I had things going on. She texted me saying "ooooh I see lol Tuesday works for me." I said awesome and the date was set so I thought. The day of the date comes and I texted her telling her what bar to meet at. A couple hours later she responded saying that can we postpone it for next week and that she doesn't like the bar that I chose. I responded with "What's wrong with that bar and if we are postponing the date I need a definite day. I have a busy schedule." she hasn't responded. My issue is this. First she is trying to change the plans. Second she didn't even give me a reason on why she wanted to postpone the date. And third I think she is showing low interest in me. Should I move on and not ask her out again unless she brings it up or keep pursing her?
preraph Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I know it seems wishy washy, but to me it sounds like the more she thought about it, the less she wanted to go out with you again. You really didn't do anything wrong. Well, maybe it was a little too soon to nail down the next date and that might have made her think you were a little desperate. I think the best thing to do is stop thinking about her and move on - but maybe if you seem willing to just let it go and leave her alone, she might have second thoughts because then if you did seem desparate, maybe that would undo it. No way to know for sure. But her saying she didn't like the place seems kind of rude, so not sure I'd bend over backwards to mend this. Good luck.
Author AirGordon2245 Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 I know it seems wishy washy, but to me it sounds like the more she thought about it, the less she wanted to go out with you again. You really didn't do anything wrong. Well, maybe it was a little too soon to nail down the next date and that might have made her think you were a little desperate. I think the best thing to do is stop thinking about her and move on - but maybe if you seem willing to just let it go and leave her alone, she might have second thoughts because then if you did seem desparate, maybe that would undo it. No way to know for sure. But her saying she didn't like the place seems kind of rude, so not sure I'd bend over backwards to mend this. Good luck. Yea I understand what you're saying. I felt like her saying she didn't like the place was a little rude too. She finally responded with "I just don't like the bar" and when I asked her to pick a definite day for next week, she said whenever I was free. I'm probably going to say something along the lines of "I'm busy next week but if I do find a time I'm free I'll let you know. I'f not well reschedule for another time
preraph Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I mean, unless she has some good reason to not like the bar, like someone works there that she hates, it was rude. The fact she'd say that is more like something you'd say to a friend who asked you out, not a guy you were actually interested in. I guess that's the main red flag. If you think you might really like a guy, you'll go wherever.
Gaeta Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I think she met someone over the weekend and now she has another interesting prospect. She doesn't need to give you a reason why she doesn't like the bar. Us women it can be for a silly little thing like the washrooms are dirty or we had words with one of the waitresses. 1
kendahke Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I told her I already had plans that weekend If you didn't explain to her what your plans entailed and who with, this may have turned her off. Mid-week date for first date might have seemed fine to you, but it's kind of what cheaters do--my cheating ex certainly did this behind my back--take the side piece out during the week and leave the weekends open for their girlfriend, so it may have turned her off.
Author AirGordon2245 Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 If you didn't explain to her what your plans entailed and who with, this may have turned her off. Mid-week date for first date might have seemed fine to you, but it's kind of what cheaters do--my cheating ex certainly did this behind my back--take the side piece out during the week and leave the weekends open for their girlfriend, so it may have turned her off. Well that's kinda childish if I have to tell her who I'm hanging out with on the weekend. Plus she never asked. And that's what cheaters do? What's wrong with a weekday date? It's not like I'm asking her to just hangout with me at my place. When you think of side chick's you don't even take then out in public.
Robratory Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 She was showing signs of high attraction. Such as playing with her hair . . . The day of the date comes and I texted her telling her what bar to meet at. A couple hours later she responded saying that can we postpone it for next week and that she doesn't like the bar that I chose. I responded with "What's wrong with that bar and if we are postponing the date I need a definite day. I have a busy schedule." she hasn't responded. My issue is this. First she is trying to change the plans. Second she didn't even give me a reason on why she wanted to postpone the date. And third I think she is showing low interest in me. Should I move on and not ask her out again unless she brings it up or keep pursing her? Well, first, I hope you didn't actually pay for a PUA course. I wonder because of the language you use, such as "signs of high attraction." Playing with her hair doesn't necessarily mean anything. Many women pick up the habit when they're five, long before they know anything about boys. Like Freud said, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar" (yes, Mr. Clinton, as opposed to a phallic symbol). She hasn't responded? Fine. Uck-fay er-hay. I'm serious. Don't waste time pursuing the reluctant ones when so many are eager to play ball. Even when they make you work for it, the eager ones never act reluctant. They just put contingencies on their eagerness.
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