TheTool Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 So i'll admit it I'm petrified to break up with my girlfriend. now before everyone pounces and portrays me as a cruel disgusting man for not manning up and getting the job done. Those sorts of ideal endings aren't for guys like me. You see I have a somewhat idiotic but very active mind so I've gone through umpteen versions of this moment. And I think I have worked out why it is so damn difficult for guys to just act. For me, I have had 30 ish years of upbringing from parents teachers peers TV the interweb books magazines brainwashing me into the utterly unrealistic world where girls, women, persons of the female gender must not be hurt harmed treated mean or cruely in anyway shape size form or action. And that all men, who ever break up or fall out of love with the girl they once held so close to them is suddenly a massive ding-a-ling who should be treated with distain and death threats at every available opportunity. villanised by friends and a family he tried to make his own. ( I am talking about guys who are genuine and kind who for what ever reason fell out of love and want out in a dignified way, not players or prunes who go from one short relationship to the next with a drunken memory and don't understand why they can't find the one) Its just horribly unfair that I have fallen out of love with a girl, one who kind and good the perfect girl for someone. just not me. She has even commented to me about other friends of hers who have broken up that you can't force yourself to love. and you can't believe me I know. But if I go and say that about us. All hell breaks up as if we were the exception to the rule. Apparently guys aren't perfect, women love this sort of comment. I have had it said to me from my girl many many times, its fine. I don't understand though if I'm not perfect why does she expect my feelings to be perfect? Thanks for reading. ps I know my thoughts are all over the place, disconnected blah blah. this is a rant about my heart ache at trying to end this. I don't think my thoughts can connect at the moment. anyway any thoughts you have are most welcome
LetGGOO Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 If you honestly didn't do anything messed up then you really shouldn't be seen as a terrible person for falling out of love. If you've been stringing someone along etc etc then yeah, the girl will get mad, otherwise people need to also remember that love is very unpredictable and that when we enter that space, no matter how much we promise in the beginning and during the good times, there IS always a possibility of an ending :/
wow123 Posted January 16, 2016 Posted January 16, 2016 I'm not sure I understand why you think it's cruel? You don't love her right? Wouldnr it be more cruel to marry her?
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