Veritasion Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I am a guy in late 20's. For most (but not all) things in my life I am moderately successful guy. I am well educated, have rich scope of interests, good manners. I care for my friends and relatives, have a great passion for women I date. And I am not even bad looking (although not the sexiest guy around). ... but I am fail in relationships. The best thing I've ever had is a friend with benefits, and she seems dont have much time for me, and it seems that she not even trying to change that. Just making endless excuses. "Why do You in relationship with her?" - You may ask. Because for me even finding that kind of relationship is very hard task for me. I see a lot of guys who seamlessly and almost effortlessly can find the woman they like. For me it is challenge. Yes, I have my own quirks - I'm not very charming at first sight, I'm have introverted personality, also I'm looking not only for nice, but also for intelligent and caring girlfriend. But girls also have their own quircks and preferences... So... in order to have even slightest success I have to go great lengths to achieve that. Chatting with girls in dating websites for years, going to public events and make a great speaks (it's a part of my job), be very interesting and insightful and etc. etc. But I'm still lonely and often thinking that I deserve better than partial relationships or being lonely forever. What do You think? Maybe I want to much? I You have (or had) same issues, how do You cope with them? (Sorry for my grammar skills, english is my second language)
soph-walker Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Welcome to Love Shack; where 96% of its members are looking for love. You're not alone in your search. I can't find a boyfriend! Can barely seem to make it past one date these days. Keep trying, also, busy yourself with seeing friends/family, taking time for your interests. Good luck. 1
smudge21 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Hey, Doc Brown figured out time travel rather than relationships. There's no real answer to that. I've been knocked for six many times in my life - always brought up to treat women with respect yet I've been turned down or even dumped for the bad guy who treats them like dirt. I've tried different things, odd success, odd failure, but I still don't know for sure what the correct answer to this puzzle is. I reckon it just comes down to you're asking for two people to just be one, putting aside all their differences, and that is the hardest thing ever to find that match. Although it does happen, quite often, so it will happen to you. And me. Maybe. Wish I could give you a more positive answer, but keep living your life and enjoying it. You never know what, or who, is around the next corner.
deckard11 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 You're not the only one but you're certainly doing better than me dude. I'm 41 and have never had a girlfriend or a date.
wb1988 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I see a lot of guys who seamlessly and almost effortlessly can find the woman they like. For me it is challenge. Look at how those guys look and act. Yeah, do that. Yes, I have my own quirks - I'm not very charming at first sight, I'm have introverted personality, also I'm looking not only for nice, but also for intelligent and caring girlfriend. Make yourself charming at first sight. I had that problem many years ago but then I started do dress well, then dressed really well and eventually it became me and the charm just came out (although I've been told a few times that it comes off a bit stuck up). Start from the outside in. All girls are intelligent and caring, it just depends on the guy and how you perceive things. I've dated girls that were caring with their ex but uncaring with me (and many times the opposite), or had above-average knowledge but were easily fooled. Don't think that you're preferences are very specific or unrealistic, they seem to be reasonable. 1
hasaquestion Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Make yourself charming at first sight. I had that problem many years ago but then I started do dress well, then dressed really well and eventually it became me and the charm just came out (although I've been told a few times that it comes off a bit stuck up). Start from the outside in. All girls are intelligent and caring, it just depends on the guy and how you perceive things. I've dated girls that were caring with their ex but uncaring with me (and many times the opposite), or had above-average knowledge but were easily fooled. Don't think that you're preferences are very specific or unrealistic, they seem to be reasonable. People don't understand the value of first impressions in general. If you carry yourself with confidence and a smile and know how to talk without stumbling over yourself in little ways you'll be fine. Posture, eye contact, a smile, speech patterns. All of that stuff makes a huge difference in the way people perceive you.
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