slider1985 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) Hey there, what does it mean when two people 6 months out a 6 year LTR are still friends on facebook and both still have old pictures of them of when they were together? He dumped her unexpectedly and she was devastated. Do not know the reason for the break up. She never had bad things to say about him but she was in depression. They both are closely tied to a large circle of friends and family. She is currently dating other guys but isn’t over him. I don't know his situation. The NC rule was not applied immediately after the breakup as they were in the process of settling buyout and she had to move out. He is a kind and genuine person. They lived and owned together, it was basically a marriage. I realize this is a broad question which probably can’t be answered but what’s the reason for both parties to still have fb connection and old pictures of them together still posted? Are both just being respectful of each other not wanting to hurt one another and their families especially the dumper? I’m sure she’s still holding out hope they get back together. Is this a red flag to pursue her? Knowing how devastated she was and on medication for depression why has the NC rule been applied yet? I find it difficult to move on from someone if the connections are still there, right? I realize these are difficult questions to answer with little information but any input would be greatly appreciated. Edited January 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
PegNosePete Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) I'm sure the solution is the same as it always is when Facebook is mentioned. Block her. Problem solved. Edited January 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author slider1985 Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 Hey there, What does it mean when two people 6 months out a 6 year LTR are still friends on facebook and both still have old pictures of them of when they were together? He dumped her unexpectedly and she was devastated. Do not know the reason for the break up. She never had bad things to say about him but she was in depression. They both are closely tied to a large circle of friends and family. She is currently dating other guys but isn’t over him. I don't know his situation. The NC rule was not applied immediately after the breakup as they were in the process of settling buyout and she had to move out. He is akind and genuine person. They lived and owned together, it was basically a marriage. I realize this is a broad question which probably can’t be answered but what’s thereason for both parties to still have fb connection and old pictures of them together still posted? Are both just being respectful of each other not wanting to hurt one another and their families especially the dumper? I’m sure she’s still holding out hope they get back together. Is this a red flag to pursue her? Knowing how devastated she was and on medication for depression why has the NC rule been applied yet? I find it difficult to move on from someone if the connections are still there, right? I realize these are difficult questions to answer with little information but any input would be greatly appreciated.
PegNosePete Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Thanks for reformatting What does it mean when two people 6 months out a 6 year LTR are still friends on facebook and both still have old pictures of them of when they were together? It means neither of them has defriended the other and neither has deleted or untagged the photos. That is all it means, nothing more. what’s thereason for both parties to still have fb connection and old pictures of them together still posted? You would have to ask them that. You're right it is too broad for anyone to possibly make a guess. Are both just being respectful of each other not wanting to hurt one another and their families especially the dumper? I’m sure she’s still holding out hope they get back together. Is this a red flag to pursue her? Knowing how devastated she was and on medication for depression why has the NC rule been applied yet? I find it difficult to move on from someone if the connections are still there, right? You could be right or you could be totally wrong. No way anyone on here can possibly tell. You make a lot of assumptions which could be wrong. Drawing conclusions from flawed assumptions, you will get flawed conclusions. Talk to her about it. If you don't like the answers, don't date her.
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Dylon Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 It was a long relationship. Could be just mutual respect....the don't want to be rude, harsh, or cold attitude. Once one side has a new relationship, that will change.
losangelena Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Hey there, What does it mean when two people 6 months out a 6 year LTR are still friends on facebook and both still have old pictures of them of when they were together? He dumped her unexpectedly and she was devastated. Do not know the reason for the break up. She never had bad things to say about him but she was in depression. They both are closely tied to a large circle of friends and family. She is currently dating other guys but isn’t over him. I don't know his situation. Are both just being respectful of each other not wanting to hurt one another and their families especially the dumper? I’m sure she’s still holding out hope they get back together. Is this a red flag to pursue her? Knowing how devastated she was and on medication for depression why has the NC rule been applied yet? I find it difficult to move on from someone if the connections are still there, right? I don't think the FB thing in and of itself is a big deal. I've gotten rid of some of the photos of my ex, but some of them are still there (he's not on FB). We're still following each other on Instagram, and neither of us have deleted or untagged the photos of each other (there aren't many to begin with, though). But I don't feel like deleting an entire chunk of my life just because things didn't work out. However, my ex and I were only together for a year. The woman you're describing seems to have gone through a much rougher experience/devastating break up. Given what you've bolded, I would be wary. Obviously, if she's still hoping for reconciliation, then I would it it'd be hard for her to fully connect to anyone else. She might be ready to date around, but it doesn't sound like she's quite up for being in a relationship again. Are you dating this woman? Just interested? As with many questions posed here, the best person to find these things out from would be the woman herself.
Author slider1985 Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 Thanks for your input. I was dating her for 2 months when she was fresh out of the relationship and it was an emotional roller coaster. She was heart broken and in shambles. I went into it with no intention but began to have feelings for her. She started to distant herself more because she could sense I was falling forher and she wasn’t ready for more and nor did I expect it. SO I broke it off with her. I gave her space to grieve and find herself. I want to reach out one day in hopes to rekindle it.
Itspointless Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 It means neither of them has defriended the other and neither has deleted or untagged the photos. That is all it means, nothing more. Exactly, for me it is the same with my ex. I am not going to delete what is my history: it belongs to my life. I am also still connected to her, haven't checked her page for 21 months though. I also have another ex still on there
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