Jc396 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I am new to the dating scene since my five relationship has ended a few months ago. He was my first and we have dated since high school and throughout college. A guy who I had a thing with before i got with my ex, wants to get together and I know he is going to want to hookup since he has been hinting to it. Im not interested in a relationship right now, but I wouldn't mind getting physical with him mainly since its been so long since I have had sex. I already told him I'm not ready for another relationship and he said he isn't either so we are on the same page. Since i have only been loyal to one guy for the majority of my adult life, i feel odd just hooking up with someone without any commitment. Does this sound like a good idea?
Redhead14 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I am new to the dating scene since my five relationship has ended a few months ago. He was my first and we have dated since high school and throughout college. A guy who I had a thing with before i got with my ex, wants to get together and I know he is going to want to hookup since he has been hinting to it. Im not interested in a relationship right now, but I wouldn't mind getting physical with him mainly since its been so long since I have had sex. I already told him I'm not ready for another relationship and he said he isn't either so we are on the same page. Since i have only been loyal to one guy for the majority of my adult life, i feel odd just hooking up with someone without any commitment. Does this sound like a good idea? Absolutely not. It is entirely too soon for you to attempt to enter into any kind of relationship and especially a purely sexual one because, frankly, the majority of women will lie to themselves after a heartbreak and convince themselves that they can "just have sex" with a guy and not have any expectations going forward. You have to be a very strong, secure, independent woman in order to be able to do that and I promise you, you haven't been "on your own" long enough at this point to be fully prepared to manage your emotions and expectations the way you would need to to prevent becoming emotionally invested especially since you already had a "thing" with this guy. It's tempting because you do know him and so seeking comfort there is appealing, but it would be short lived.
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 It sounds so easy. You meet. You have sex. You walk away. The reality is different especially if you are somebody who becomes emotionally attached through the sex act. Your body does release hormones which aid in the emotional connection. If you are that type of person you could end up confused & unhappy. So the answer is it depends. You know yourself. Do you think you will feel better or worse if you have NSA sex.
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