Aaronhasson Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 My girlfriend broke up with me a few days after christmas out of the blue said she wasn"t happy anymore done the usual I love you etc sent her flowers new years day she said we wouldnt work out etc. So I left her alone didnt text her etc seen this other guy flirting with her on facebook she texted me a few days later asking how many links needed taking out of a watch she bought me for Christmas i just said it and that was it, she texted a few days later saying her sister will bring it to me, her sister is my friends boyfriend. i texted her sister drunk asking is she meeting this other guy and my ex seen me texting her and texted me saying That its just a joke and their only friends etc my friend who is going with her sister then told me that apparently she stayed in the guys house on new years eve i said that to my ex whenever she had texted me saying they were only friends and she went mad saying how dare I accuse her of anything etc and said we will never get back and I should move on, I went no contact as above for over a week until she texted saying they were friends, what do I do I had bought her a teddy bear saying i miss you and a card saying am sorry You mean the world to me but unsure what to do, think i messed up by asking did anything happen between them on new years eve, the guy I know is a player and is texting other girls atm what should I do thanks weve been together since march 2014
PegNosePete Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Sorry to say, t's over. She has told you this quite plainly. Now you need to NC her and her sister. Stop asking her about other guys.She is single and free to date whoever she likes. It's none of your business. You need to stop stalking her and concentrate on YOU.
Bradt Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Leave her alone...delete her number,block her number...block her on all sm...etc etc...it will be very hard at first but it DOES get easier...do not ask about her,do not contact her sister....just cut all contact... Who knows what she and this friend did at his place...but thats done now,move on dude...i know how you feeling,and I know how its gona be feeling later on...push through and believe me,you will feel the rewards if you just stay strong... Become independant,become you again...dont get involved with the next best thing...stay single and have casual "things"... I been der and went through hell,gotten over it and are now so confident that I have a couple of friends with benefits,and have met a couple of new lady friends that also have more lady friends to meet... Point is theres a big world with tons of woman,dont let the 1 that disrespected you so much to dump you so she can go sleep by a friend...even if nothing happened...its disrespectful....follow my advice and you can become as strong as you want,in time that is 1
theredpill Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Do this ^^^ Please don't contact here again, you'll want to but don't - then by the time you do cross paths, you'll be you again, hopefully with someone even better on your arm!
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Stop throwing money at her. She's done with you & the relationship. Sorry. Go NC which includes unfriending her & unfollowing her on all social media. It doesn't matter if the new guy is a player. It's her life & her choice. Spend some time licking your wounds. Avoid the sister for a while too. Then pick yourself up, dust yourself off & get back out there.
Author Aaronhasson Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 Thats what I done from the breakup was no contact its been her that iniAted each contact
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Thats what I done from the breakup was no contact its been her that iniAted each contact So block her.
Author Aaronhasson Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 Yeah have deleted her off all social media, only thing is we were booked to go away friday week was my birthday present from her whats this best thing to do to sort that, obviously dont want to contact her?
Dylon Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 She's just holding onto you for what's left while moving on. It's going to hurt a lot more as you drag this out to her benefits.
Author Aaronhasson Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 How long does it take just to get it out of your head, have her deleted off everything number etc. Havent looked at facebook page or anything since sunday the last day we spoke
RandomTraveller Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 How long does it take just to get it out of your head, have her deleted off everything number etc. Havent looked at facebook page or anything since sunday the last day we spoke Man this is different for everyone... some ppl move on quickly, while others take months over months or even years. I don't want to talk like an expert cause I'm not an expert for sure... it's just what I read on this forums, internet, books about break up, etc etc... If that helps man be grateful that you spent christmas with her. My gf left me on 19 of december... right before holidays. After 2.5 years of relationship. It was not "out of the blue" but still a complete shock for me. All of this to just say we are on the same boat. I'm learning that staying active helps.... I suffer of syndrome of abandonment, not sure how you say it in english cause I'm Italian... basically when a person in my life leave I feel much more mental pain than normal. 1
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