d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I was single for 41 years until I got married for the 1st time. The longest I was without a relationship as an adult was almost 2 years, 21 months to be exact: October 2004 through August 2006. During that time I had a 6 month FWB thing; the sex was great but outside of the bedroom we had nothing in common. When I decided to step up my game at the beginning of 2006 & seek out a relationship, I did OLD for 90 days & went on 3 dates. I "talked" to about 7 men in that time. All of the dates were horrible & I ended all 3 with it was nice meeting you but this isn't going to work for me; good luck finding somebody. When my subscription ran out I never did OLD again because I really didn't like it. I signed up to go speed dating. After 4 sessions were cancelled because they didn't have enough men, I demanded my money back. Throughout 2006 I promised myself I would put myself out there beyond the above to try to meet somebody. I went on 4 dates. One was a nice enough guy but after we attended a dinner dance "together" mutual friends in the society set us up as the other "couple" at their table, I found out he has an on again off again GF who I knew & had to deal with for business so I bowed out. I met a hot guy at a party & we got a little carried away (but didn't have sex). He never called me again. I met a guy who seemed interesting at a singles event but by our 2nd date I figured out he was still hung up on his EX & their break up was still fresh. I actually met 2 guys the night I met DH. DH was the one who got my motor running but the other guy was more aggressive. The other guy asked me out right away. Our date was nice enough but I was thinking about DH, who at that point had only sent me an e-mail saying it was nice to meet me. I had gone on my 1st date with DH before my 2nd date with the other guy. The other guy & I had gotten our signals crossed; it was an awkward 2nd date & it made me realize I'd rather be with DH. I ended things with that guy at the end of that date.
truth_seeker Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I've never been married so you could say my whole life 3
ASG Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 My last proper relationship ended about 5 years ago. I have dated in the meantime. Mostly casually. Not exactly looking, but not against finding someone either 1
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I turn 26 this year and never been in a relationship. There are a lot of opportunities for me to do so but my fear of relationship is inhibiting me from engaging in one. Pathetic I know. I thought it would be fear of not knowing how to make one happen
thecrucible Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 My last long term serious relationship was about 5 years ago. My last relationship of any kind was about 2 years ago.
FerryCorsten Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 27 and have never had any dating experience
shyguy3543 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 My ex girlfriend broke up with me 1 year annnnd.... 2 months ago. I've dated 3 girls since then, had sex with one. 2 of them got back with their exes, the 3rd one I felt more of a friendly vibe and had a hard time letting myself freely develop feelings for her once I found out there was a chance she'd be moving back to Ohio from NY. (Good thing! She did end up moving back in December... that would've sucked)
RySant Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 27 and have never had any dating experience We're on the same both but just turned 26 here. I don't see that as any better. Sigh.
Zapbasket Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I've been single for 2 years and 4 months. I've also taken a hiatus from dating--I have been on a few dates during this time and been pursued by about 12 guys, but my heart was healing and I just wasn't into any of it (or them). I have needed this time alone. It's not what I would have wanted, to be 39 and single, but I've seen my single-ness as an opportunity to gain more clarity re: what I want with and for myself and out of life and a relationship and I think it's paying off. It's far better to be single than to be in the wrong relationship for you. Nothing and no one is holding me back. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 3 months since my last on-off relationship ended for good. 3.5 years since my last proper relationship.
ForeverAloneOnEarth Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I'm 22 years old and i never been in a relationship. Many people tell me i'm such a sweetheart and an average looking guy so i really don't understand why. 1
Zapbasket Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I'm 22 years old and i never been in a relationship. Many people tell me i'm such a sweetheart and an average looking guy so i really don't understand why. It is simple: it just hasn't happened yet for you. I was 25 before I got in my first proper relationship. I felt I was always carrying around this albatross of, "I have never had a boyfriend," and then I met Jeff, my first proper boyfriend, and all of a sudden the albatross was gone. Don't define yourself by not having had a girlfriend yet. It will happen, and then all these worries you're having will be moot. Then, you'll have bigger fish to fry, such as, "Is this girl right for me?" And, "Am I a good boyfriend?" It'll all get much, much messier, so enjoy this not-had-a-girlfriend-yet angst while it lasts 1
ForeverAloneOnEarth Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 It is simple: it just hasn't happened yet for you. I was 25 before I got in my first proper relationship. I felt I was always carrying around this albatross of, "I have never had a boyfriend," and then I met Jeff, my first proper boyfriend, and all of a sudden the albatross was gone. Don't define yourself by not having had a girlfriend yet. It will happen, and then all these worries you're having will be moot. Then, you'll have bigger fish to fry, such as, "Is this girl right for me?" And, "Am I a good boyfriend?" It'll all get much, much messier, so enjoy this not-had-a-girlfriend-yet angst while it lasts i appreciate your response. I do hope you are right. Sometimes i feel like giving up and accepting the way things are, but i still try to hold on.
Popsicle Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Last boyfriend was 5 years ago. Last husband was 10 years ago.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Found out recently that one of my Aunts was single throughout all of her teens and 20's, didn't get her first official boyfriend until sometime in her 30's, she's 56 now, which kind of made me feel little bit better, but harder to believe a woman ending up like that compared to a man
venusishername Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 How long have you been single before you found someone you REALLY like? How many dates did you have during that time? I've been single for almost a year now, with a string of unsuccessful dates. I felt some chemistry three times this year, but all turned out to have some major red flags like cheating on their SO, looking for something casual ect. I was single for over 4 years before I found someone I really liked and who really liked me and who actually wanted a real relationship, and who put in the effort, and pursued me, and followed through, etc. I had never been single as an adult before, always in long term relationships until I was 27. It sucked being single most of the time, I'll be honest. I didn't want to date for the first 2 years after my last break up, but I went on online dates or with guys I met in person. I went on so many first dates I lost count. The longest I was with someone casually was about 6 weeks. I do not miss being single at all. Some people have fun being single... I could've done without it! I had to learn how to be alone and that was actually a very good thing. I grew up. I used to think there was something wrong with me because I didn't have a boyfriend, even though I wanted one. Someone who loves me more than anything told me that I'm 'unique' and no one yet had been 'good enough' for me. Once I started believing that, my new boyfriend found me. Another cliché: You don't find love, love finds you. Ironic how as soon as I gave up looking, deleted all online dating apps, resigned to being alone forever, love found me ! I didn't have to do anything 1
Zapbasket Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 I was single for over 4 years before I found someone I really liked and who really liked me and who actually wanted a real relationship, and who put in the effort, and pursued me, and followed through, etc. I had never been single as an adult before, always in long term relationships until I was 27. It sucked being single most of the time, I'll be honest. I didn't want to date for the first 2 years after my last break up, but I went on online dates or with guys I met in person. I went on so many first dates I lost count. The longest I was with someone casually was about 6 weeks. I do not miss being single at all. Some people have fun being single... I could've done without it! I had to learn how to be alone and that was actually a very good thing. I grew up. I used to think there was something wrong with me because I didn't have a boyfriend, even though I wanted one. Someone who loves me more than anything told me that I'm 'unique' and no one yet had been 'good enough' for me. Once I started believing that, my new boyfriend found me. Another cliché: You don't find love, love finds you. Ironic how as soon as I gave up looking, deleted all online dating apps, resigned to being alone forever, love found me ! I didn't have to do anything That's so awesome. I hope this happens for me, too
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