dragonfly8936 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 what are the rules of a break if your partner and you have not set boundaries? He said he wouldn't be happier with someone else and he loves me but he thinks we are on different levels, that we need to figure out what we want. We have been together 4 months after talking fora month and a half, and we hadn't had many issues tbh. He is starting a new job, but won't respond to my question of what this break entails and what the rules are.I have not heard from him for 3 days and so I went on tinder and started talking to people. What should/ shouldn't i be doing?
Sameold Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 3 days and no contact is not really a relationship. On this basis assume you are single and swipe away.
CarrieT Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 My "rules" are that if you are in a relationship, there is no BREAK. You are either loyal, monogamous, and communicative to your partner or you are single. If a relationship needs a "break," then just break-up 100% and move on.
Author dragonfly8936 Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 3 days no contaCt after saying he needs a break. I know he is stressed about the new job and he just started today. everyone is telling me that is what is effecting him. stres ruins a mans libido they say. I have been hit on a lot in the last few days and one guy even kissed me so I feel guilty
brothers343 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 My "rules" are that if you are in a relationship, there is no BREAK. You are either loyal, monogamous, and communicative to your partner or you are single. If a relationship needs a "break," then just break-up 100% and move on. I agree totally. If you need a break from each than there's something wrong. And you have said that you have only dated for four months. Usually your still in that honeymoon stage. When that ends than that is when you really find out if you need a break. A permanent one that is.
Author dragonfly8936 Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 so i shouldn't feel bad that I am talking to other guys? or that i made out with one? what i he responds to me tomorrow saying this was all a mistake?
Mrin Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 so i shouldn't feel bad that I am talking to other guys? or that i made out with one? what i he responds to me tomorrow saying this was all a mistake? I agree with CarrieT - there are no breaks in a relationship. Just break ups. Don't feel guilty. If he comes back tomorrow saying this was a mistake then just evaluate him as if he had broken up with you and decide if you want to take him back.
Author dragonfly8936 Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 he literally just got back to me, saying he hasn't thought about rules or boundaries
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