singlelife Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Some girls play cat and mouse and others play hard to get. If you like someone how do you let it be known? Us guys want to know.
mrldii Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Consistently. Effectively. And, in a way that he won't misunderstand OR mistake it for anything else. 5
thecrucible Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 By getting all flustered and not flirting very well at all. I would also get quite shy around him. I find I tend to freeze up around a guy I really like and consider relationship material. I won't tell him everything about me up front as I'm almost stunned into not saying much (it's not deliberately playing hard to get but I just get a little freaked out by it). I'll always respond well to a guy I really like but I'm not very good at making moves myself, which is something I aim to work on. If I don't like a guy very much, I find it easier to flirt with him and I'll be forward and confident. 1
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 Consistently. Effectively. And, in a way that he won't misunderstand OR mistake it for anything else. Please give an example.
mrldii Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Please give an example. Oh, I couldn't possibly. Because I don't follow a script, how I do it varies from man-to-man; it's a tailored response, based on me knowing how he'll best *get* the message that I'm oh-so-interested in him.
truth_seeker Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Interesting topic. Some signs I've picked up on from women are lots of staring. They give a look that tells you "I like what I see". Other signs... they will keep their distance but you'll catch them staring. This is more from shy girls. I've known women to stare, put themselves near me and then the talking starts. I agree with thecrucible about flirting. When I'm around a woman I like I get a bit uptight as I don't want to say something stupid that might turn her off. When I'm around women I'm not into I'm very carefree and shoot from the hip. I'd like to hear what shy women do, how they behave when they like a guy.
PrettyEmily77 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 1. By showing him, then 2. By telling him The kind of guy I'm attracted to (open-minded, confident non-player) often responds well to a subtle yet unambiguous and fairly direct approach. Don't like games as I feel they're a waste of time and don't like being approached myself but had no problem initiating when single.
RecentChange Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Well, what is the circumstance? A stranger on the street? An acquaintance? "Stranger" first lots of eye contact -if I am just pervin' and getting a look, I'll look away when he looks.... If I am serious, I am going to hold his gaze. I will intiate conversation, I'll "touch" a shoulder, a thigh..... An acquaintance? I will move into "personal space" flirty expressions, laughter, touching, a hard "stare" into his eyes, a yes, "this is what you think it is" look. 1
basil67 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Back in the day? I'd mount him. That generally got the message across 4
Author singlelife Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 Back in the day? I'd mount him. That generally got the message across lol. good move. 1
katiegrl Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I'm a blusher. When in the presence of a man I am super attracted to, I blush! Ugh.... I hate it cuz it's a dead giveaway..... even though I still try to act a bit coy to counter the blushing. Apparently, it's a winning combination though.... cuz the relationship pretty much takes off from there.
StBreton Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) I'm a coo-er...I don't even realize I do it...and I touch my hair a lot......and I talk to said guy a lot in a slightly giddy/silly manner (apparently I sound like a "nightingale" when I talk lol...that's the latest feedback anyway). If a girl pays extra attention to a guy, it's most likely she likes him. Oh here's a big one, I'll make food for him:) Edited January 12, 2016 by StBreton
todreaminblue Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) my voice changes.....i change i guess....im normally fairly confident when it comes to men.....as in friendly with guys i feel no attraction too.....but when its a guy i like...i am insecure.....because i get mixed emotions....my own...and often from them......its hard to determine what i feel...harder to vocalise...so i become a fruit .....thats one of the reasons why i think its better for me to date guys i have no vibe or strong connection for...where my heart isnt involved....so i can seem semi intelligent when i speak..or fi i were to expereince a strong connection that guy i feel for be an honest upfront guy who says what his intentions are what he feels...and is a bit compassionate and open minded......so my emotions arent so mixed up..if i were to meet a guy who was upfront ....i woudl be able to be myself and just be honest...and thats how i prefer to let a guy know i like him.....just tell him....i dont like games......deb Edited January 12, 2016 by todreaminblue
Popsicle Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Your mileage may vary, depending on the woman, but I usually tell him that he's handsome and I want to get to know him better. 1
five2nine Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) I will probably throw him a compliment or two. It could be something small and easily missed but it's always something I genuinely admire in him that I don't see in everyone else. I'll also make it easier to spend time together by suggesting something, and it might be in a casual way like "I wouldn't mind" going there with you, etc. It depends on the person. I don't want to be too direct or show obvious interest if I can't tell whether he likes me or not. I guess I don't want to get rejected either. If he doesn't respond in any way, I will drop the effort and treat it like a friendship as if those feelings never existed I am chronically shy and if I like him I'll usually avoid/feel intimidated. He would have to talk to me first. I'll feel a little more comfortable after getting to know him. Then I would do the things mentioned above Edited January 12, 2016 by five2nine
Emilia Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I push boundaries with teasing and see if he responds. Make him laugh, compliment him in a very lighthearted way. Then preferably get him a bit tipsy and relaxed. They tend to take it over from there 2
soph-walker Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I would touch his arm a few times, hold his gaze, cheeks would blush..
fitnessfan365 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) Oh here's a big one, I'll make food for him:) The sign of a good woman. When I first met my GF, she put on a bit of hardcore feminist front. This included NEVER wanting to be in the kitchen for any guy. Yet now she makes me sandwiches, brings me drinks, cooks dinner, and is always finding new recipes of stuff she wants to make. She also dresses more feminine, is softer/loving, and 10x more submissive in bed. That's why I believe that when a woman meets a guy she truly loves, respects, and trusts her biological need to be a bit domestic and old fashioned emerges. I push boundaries with teasing and see if he responds. This has ALWAYS been my experience with women who were into me. It's almost like attraction comes w/a bit of uncomfortable and that uncertainty is what creates the tension. The women that were just genuinely nice/sweet all the time always seemed more like friend material. But it was the women who would tease, be really playful, a bit bratty, etc that the chemistry and attraction came with. Edited January 12, 2016 by fitnessfan365 4
Emilia Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 This has ALWAYS been my experience with women who were into me. It's almost like attraction comes w/a bit of uncomfortable and that uncertainty is what creates the tension. The women that were just genuinely nice/sweet all the time always seemed more like friend material. But it was the women who would tease, be really playful, a bit bratty, etc that the chemistry and attraction came with. I learned that from men I think. It's my way of testing his personality too, not just creating attraction. Nice men enjoy being teased, they don't see it as an attack on their ego by a lesser person. Those that don't like women don't like it. It's one of the filters. Your girlfriend putting on a 'feminist act' was probably her filter too. To see whether you liked women or were just looking for a kitchen and bedroom servant 2
Toodaloo Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Touch. I will make some excuse to touch him. I don't normally touch people much unless they are very close to me. I am very much a "this is my space that is your space" kind of girl so if I touch. I will also use excuses to whisper in his ear or get closer in proximity. *Note some girls are very touchy feely* Smile I will smile a lot. I will try to make him laugh and giggle. Speech Lots of compliments will flow. I will tease with them as well. If I am feeling ballsy I will also tell them outright in very no nonsense language... For example - I really fancy you. Yes, I will be that blunt and to the point. Basically watch the way I am with my best friends. If I am like that with you and am also trying to flash my boobs or seductive looks at you then your in luck! I may also wink at you! So many ways to flirt how are we supposed to list them??? 1
jen1447 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Ladies, If you like a guy how do you show it? Show him my boobs. 1
WaitingForBardot Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 Back in the day? I'd mount him. That generally got the message across Sadly, some of us started really slow. In my youth, even this was not clear enough. I'd tell you a story, but I don't come off well in it... Show him my boobs. Nor was this, at least until I became a bit more worldly. Since then it has worked every single time! ..lol..
Popsicle Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I learned that from men I think. It's my way of testing his personality too, not just creating attraction. Nice men enjoy being teased, they don't see it as an attack on their ego by a lesser person. Those that don't like women don't like it. It's one of the filters. Your girlfriend putting on a 'feminist act' was probably her filter too. To see whether you liked women or were just looking for a kitchen and bedroom servant Yes, exactly. It's testing to see how nice they are (nice is desirable). There are more than enough jerks around and you have to screen for them. I usually mix it up because I can't help being nice. A guy who doesn't like a woman being nice is also a red flag. 1
Author singlelife Posted January 14, 2016 Author Posted January 14, 2016 I would touch his arm a few times, hold his gaze, cheeks would blush.. I would pick up on the touching.
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