Mikau Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 My birthday is coming up, and I've just gone on what feels like a very succesful first date. Now ofcourse, there's a bit of a dilemma in how to proceed. Asking somebody to come to your birthday before or just after a second date would be far too much pressure I think, but at the same time not mentioning it at all seems like something that would come back to haunt me if it turns into anything. What's the best play here?
ThisisIt606 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 I don't think it would really haunt you by not saying anything because even if it does turn into something, I would think he would also feel it was too soon/forced to be invited to your bday near a 2nd date. You are still getting to know eachother, people are generally on their best behavior (or complete nut jobs) on first dates. You can mention your bday is coming up and you're doing xyz with your friends. You're under no obligation to invite a near stranger to your bday and he shouldn't expect to be invited so soon. I'd say just causally bring it up as you would any weekend plan. Then after the 2nd date see if you still like him enough for a 3rd and the two of you set it up.
soph-walker Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Wayyyy too early. Maybe if you'd been dating 2 months, not after 2 dates. Give things chance to unfurl
Author Mikau Posted January 11, 2016 Author Posted January 11, 2016 Oh I agree it would be way too early to invite her. Would be too much pressure on both me and her. I also think mentioning it runs the risk of her expecting something I really can't or don't want to do (invite her to come). 1
d0nnivain Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Say nothing. If the shoe was on the other foot & you knew your 2nd date was around the other person's birthday I would say get a card . . . maybe a cupcake but nothing more elaborate. 2
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