niko1999 Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 So, I have been waiting for the second shoe to drop. And it has. So now, for the first time in my life, EVER, Im going tohave to stand on my own. My parents moved toGA a few years back, I moved in with my boyfreind straight from thier place. And I havent been alone since. And now I am. And I have no idea what to do. And Im scared. Im scared of being alone, Im scared of not knowing what is going to happen. Guys , I need help. I know in the end, one oway or the other, ILl be ok, but right now, I dont feel very ok.
em88 Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 hey hang in there k. im not going to tell you that everything is giong to be fine cuz that prob the last thing you want to hear and what you have heard everyone else tell you. anything you wanna talk about?
Author niko1999 Posted June 5, 2005 Author Posted June 5, 2005 I just wish there was a majic wand someone could wave to make it all go away, and to make everything right again. We have "broken up" before,but it never lasted more than 24 hours. Something tells me this time its for good. And I just want the pain to go away right now, but I know that isnt going to happen, not for awhile. Aw well, one bright thing. Usually a break up results in loss of appetite, leading to a loss in weight
em88 Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 wow. i guess we are kinda in the same boat. we broke up before too. but really just for 24 hrs. and this time, i feel like its for real. and it hurts. and i just wish i could take it all back because i made a lot of mistakes and there was so much we could have talked about before really breaking up like how we did. i am hoping to work things out, but i keep having to tell myself to be prepared for the worst. and yeah, haha, my appetite has gone too....
Author niko1999 Posted June 5, 2005 Author Posted June 5, 2005 I dont know if working things out would honestly be for the best. I would love to. But at the same time, if this hapens with him again, do I really want to put myself through this with him again? I dont know. Ill jsut have to see what happens. The sun will rise no matter what happens.
em88 Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 hey u seem to be doing fine the right mind set and everything. good luck!
dgiirl Posted June 5, 2005 Posted June 5, 2005 Originally posted by niko1999 So, I have been waiting for the second shoe to drop. And it has. So now, for the first time in my life, EVER, Im going tohave to stand on my own. My parents moved toGA a few years back, I moved in with my boyfreind straight from thier place. And I havent been alone since. And now I am. And I have no idea what to do. And Im scared. Im scared of being alone, Im scared of not knowing what is going to happen. Guys , I need help. I know in the end, one oway or the other, ILl be ok, but right now, I dont feel very ok. You sounded like me Feb 15th. My stbxh just walked out. He managed all the bills, money, cooking, taking out the garbage, and I thought the world was about to end. As his going away speech, he reemphasized how incapable I am, and how before I screw up to call him (we own a house together). It was pretty overwhelming at first, but it started becoming exciting. There's not much to it. When the bill comes in the mail, you pay it. When the garbage gets full, you bring it out. The only difficult thing is cooking for one. I dont know how to cook, and so cooking for one is even more difficult. Seems I waste a lot of food because it goes bad, or I keep eating the same dinner a few nights in a row. Sometimes it's scary, but at the same time I think to myself this is a great experience. For the first time in my life, I'm alone. And I hope this time will help me focus on my needs/wants, and make me a better person. To appreciate people more, and not take them for granted. And more importantly, to not fear getting out of a relationship because I've never been alone before. My friend told me "Every woman should live on her own at one point in her life. It gives her courage and power to walk away from destructive relationships because they know how to live on their own. It's empowering". I still have to find an apartment. Now that's going to be scary/exciting. The first place that *I* get too choose filled with my own furniture. One thing that helped me get over my fears was to list the things I was scared to do, and then do them. I was a nutcase. I was scared to talk to people at the grocery store. I was scared to get bills payed at the bank. I was basically scared to ask people questions. I was so scared of making the wrong mistake. But I started taking comfort in knowing people were around for me to ask questions if I was about to make a mistake. And then I took comfort in knowing making a mistake was a learning experience for me. Everything was a new challenge, and I started to enjoy it. Are there any specific fears you have?
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