breaking up my situation

[kinshinchi]

I want to talk about my current break up. It's kind long but anyone's suggestion/insight will be appreciated.

 

Me and her has been together almost 5 years. Since last year of July she wants a break from us but I try not to want this break, its because she feels nothing and something I did on side that she didn't like it but I did anyway. She wants me go physical check, which I did. So we didn't talk for 5 days then one day she send me a text that its going rain outside and told me be careful. The next day I received my medical report, I send her message and let her and see if we can see each other, eventually she agree meet sunday. We met and we talked, she said she didn't feel like she lost me or anything, but we went out for eat and movie. Few weeks later we went to see baseball game, afterward we went to eat. She asks me after dinner. Hey come stay with me. So I know we are back together.

 

Well I am stupid and *******, eventually she thought I did something again (which this time I didn't) she wants break up but I beg her, eventually she doesn't want contact or msg till Sunday. Which I wait till Sunday but this time first thing she did was apolorized that she was mad and everything.

 

Now on the day of thanksgiving weekend, she went out of town my old habit started. She found a week later and wants break up. I beg her and she did stay but next day she wants break up again, and I told her no and please don't. She eventually did stay.

 

Now this last week that was the day she left me with a note that saying we are breaking up. I been trying contact her sister and her friend which talk to them a little but didn't get any answer from her. On Saturday morning I was going to see my cousin, on the way I remeber her sister lives around the area and mabye I will see if she is there. I drive there and for some reason she is outside the front door (I didn't contact her cause she block me on facebook). She ask me why i am here I said i want to talk but she said no but I ask her please lets talk and she agree. We talked I told her two things makes you want to leave me:

 

1. I have complain to you so much and never a good words about you.

2. I never got away those old habits I did

 

she answers"oh you finally realize what you did"

 

I said i learn to see my friend's couple and see how they treat each other. She said we should hang out with them when I told you so. I said you never have time. She said well I can change my schedule around. (which its doesn't matter right now)

 

I told her I am going give her time and space that she needs. She said thank you. I said i am not going ask you time or date on this. I said eventually there will be new me. She said she doesn't want new me. She also said now you know you lost most valuable thing. She said I give you so many chances but you didn't do **** about it (which I agree I didn't because I told her I got into cockiness that knowing she will stay). she said its too late to hear those but I did tell her all those things that I am going change. Eventually we part off and only thing she said was " be careful"

 

Now I have few things want to know.

1. Is this a break up for me to proof her that I am going change or am I just a **** talk?

2. She left few items in my house, except I know that this doll she knows I love it so much, she left behind.

 

So I want to know if this break up evetually will lead us better relationship or this is over for good? Has anyone have break up and get back together?

[Chi townD]

Dude, it sounds like she's done. If you're going to make positive changes to your life, do them for you and not for her. You do them to help you heal and move on. It almost seems like she's gloating over the fact that you lost her. So, the only thing you're doing is giving her an ego boost.

 

 

If she has things still at your place, pack them up and give them to her sister. She'll make sure she gets them..

[kinshinchi]

you might be right but just not sure why she left that there, want make me feel bad losing her