pri1991 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Hi.. ive been in a long distance relationship for about 2 years now. im currently preparing for my final exams , so is he. we havnt met for almost 7-8months now due to that. Its obvious that theres a gap now between us but now im in a condition where i feel numb or gets irritated when he tries to take care. I dont know for what reason i snap. he has not done anything wrong or any kinda harm towards me. I dont want to lose him but i dont know how to bring back that all old spark of romance we had, it seems dead and gone. sometimes i just want to be alone and i feel im becoming an introvert. I dont know whats happening with me. hope i get some idea through this forum
d0nnivain Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Concentrate on your exams. That stress is most probably what has you on edge. When the exams are over, be sweet to each other again. Send nice messages & funny pictures. Perhaps spend the money & send a loving card via snail mail. All the electronic communication cannot replace something tangible. Also set about arranging your next in person meeting. That will give you something to look forward to. 1
privategal Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 why not just break up? If your not feeling it, then its stringing him along when he is trying. It doesn't make you a bad person. LDR is hard enough even when all the magic and chemistry and communication is strong. If your having a change of heart why go through the uphill battle. Just be honest, tell him your feelings and that hes done nothing wrong but you aren't feeling the same, and are sorry for snapping and need to end it to focus on yourself and school. But don't get distant on someone without explaining, be honest. If exams are coming up, and your unsure and might not be ready to end it, then have a talk, resolve to support eachother. Make an effort on your part to be extra nice and before you get irritated and tempted to snap, take a deep breathe, and try and keep your emotions in check. You need a face to face, but for now, you need to have the least amount of drama possible between you for exams. So break it off gently and with kindness and respect, or resolve to really be there for him and let him be there for you and show a lot of sweetness to help eachother through exams.
Author pri1991 Posted January 15, 2016 Author Posted January 15, 2016 why not just break up? If your not feeling it, then its stringing him along when he is trying. It doesn't make you a bad person. LDR is hard enough even when all the magic and chemistry and communication is strong. If your having a change of heart why go through the uphill battle. Just be honest, tell him your feelings and that hes done nothing wrong but you aren't feeling the same, and are sorry for snapping and need to end it to focus on yourself and school. But don't get distant on someone without explaining, be honest. If exams are coming up, and your unsure and might not be ready to end it, then have a talk, resolve to support eachother. Make an effort on your part to be extra nice and before you get irritated and tempted to snap, take a deep breathe, and try and keep your emotions in check. You need a face to face, but for now, you need to have the least amount of drama possible between you for exams. So break it off gently and with kindness and respect, or resolve to really be there for him and let him be there for you and show a lot of sweetness to help eachother through exams. i guess thats what i should do. its so hard to tell him though i want to. the thing stopping me is.. what if i lateron regret it... wht if after this exams... i want him and at that point he dont want to.. thats what is stopping me.
privategal Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 i guess thats what i should do. its so hard to tell him though i want to. the thing stopping me is.. what if i lateron regret it... wht if after this exams... i want him and at that point he dont want to.. thats what is stopping me. Gently, thats a little selfish to falsely keep a boyfriend who you really arent into...just in case. If the situation was reversed and he was feeling the way you are, wouldn't you rather him leave instead of string you along. Now in the case of exams, if you are able it might be kinder to wait so that you arent both grieving a break up and perform poorly because of it. Maybe be polite, kind, and patient and supportive. Acknowledge you will both need time apart to study and prepare and send him lots of luck and support. Then once exams are through, sit down and have a heart to heart.
Miss Peach Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 i guess thats what i should do. its so hard to tell him though i want to. the thing stopping me is.. what if i lateron regret it... wht if after this exams... i want him and at that point he dont want to.. thats what is stopping me. This is the risk you take. The good news is there are other people out there and eventually you'll be able to find someone compatible with your new adult life.
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