Richard10012 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 She works in a different department than me but on rare occasions she covers my work. I found her on facebook. I spoke to her at work. basically I can't add her I have to send a message.I don't want to make things difficult at work or get in trouble for harassment. Also her Facebook name is different to her actual name so it could look weird how I found her. Should I message her with a polite message like hey hope you don't mind me adding you
smudge21 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Crikey, ignore the social media and just do the social thing. If there's already a time when you two talk then you have your opening. Just be friendly and polite, make her laugh, you work in the same place so have that to complain about together. Do not mention you found her on FB, that just comes off as creepy and is one step away from telling her that unless she puts the lotion on she gets the hose again (wonder how many will get that one). 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 She works in a different department than me but on rare occasions she covers my work. I found her on facebook. I spoke to her at work. basically I can't add her I have to send a message.I don't want to make things difficult at work or get in trouble for harassment. Also her Facebook name is different to her actual name so it could look weird how I found her. Should I message her with a polite message like hey hope you don't mind me adding you Never get over-interested in someone at work. You're seeking a way to gradually get friendly enough to date her, aren't you? Be honest.... Never date in the workplace. It rarely works out well, and break-ups are awkward and heart-breaking. Keep your distance and just chat to her F2f. But don't escalate the involvement. That way lies a pool of tears.
Leucine Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Face to face. You will not get in trouble for just asking her out for a coffee. If she declines, move along as if nothing ever happened.
truth_seeker Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 I tried the FB message, friend request as a last resort and it didn't work out. Seldom does trying to break the ice on FB work when you see the person IRL. Talk to her at work. Everyone pretty much looks everyone up on FB but no one confesses to it. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Is this a job or a career? If it's your career, leave her alone. Dating at work has too many risks. If you are already worried about harassment charges because you sent a social media request this is not the relationship you want. Do try speaking to her at work more. After you have established a connection IRL, then you can move to social media. Trying to conjure a relationship from social media is doing this backwards. 1
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