rdons1 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 I've had 3 girlfriends. Two lasted no longer then 6 or 7 months and the third girl I have been with since July. I never had any experience dating anyone past the honeymoon phase so Im not sure what comes next. I feel that honeymoonish feeling with my girl wearing off and Im confused if this is because of a lack of feelings I have for her or if were just moving onto the next stage of the relationship. How do I know and what should I be feeling?
Amelie1980 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 What happens after honeymoon is you see them for who they are. You're on your best behavior at the beginning. All the euphoria and hormones wear off and you start behaving like you. Little flaws you overlooked before are magnified. Things that annoyed you about your partner, you begin to notice. the mask essentially slips in both of you. This is where you decide if you like each other for real or not now you're both not trying so hard and those heady first days are over.
Maggie4 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 You must have seen your folks. It's like that
Jammer25 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Just because the honeymoon feelings are wearing off doesn't mean you're not meant to be. What comes next is you begin to see them more clearly, their flaws, they see your flaws and things just wont feel new anymore. Not a bad thing. Yes, not a bad thing. It's more so a transition to a different level of comfort with your partner. But in my experience, post-honeymoon is basically when you see the more raw side of your partner. You see her bad days, her no-makeup days, her sweat pants days, her farting in front of you days, her fighting/arguing with you days. Do you accept her flaws and love her through thick and thin anyway, essentially.
Amelie1980 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Just because the honeymoon feelings are wearing off doesn't mean you're not meant to be. What comes next is you begin to see them more clearly, their flaws, they see your flaws and things just wont feel new anymore. Not a bad thing. I would add that if he feels nothing for her anymore then that is a problem. Sometimes relationships dont last beyond honeymoon, Are you still excited to see her? Do you want to still see her? Do you still have things in common, shared values, goals?
PogoStick Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 After the honeymoon, I believe, is the Syrup Sunrise.
PrettyEmily77 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Option 1: an even longer honeymoon phase. Option 2: the slow realisation that it was one big mistake. Option 3: settling to life as it will be from now on as a couple, with a few dashes of 1 & 2 at random / happy / tricky stages. 1
katinlc Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 The first relationship that I had past the honeymoon phase was with my current husband. I must say that I struggled with it a bit and it is definitely different and can be difficult to decipher if you are losing feelings or just becoming comfortable. Whatever one else said is true - it's the time you start seeing the real person, but that's not what I struggled with...For me, it was the change of feelings I struggled with. In my experience, you lose the my life revolves around you, I want to rip your clothes off the second I see you feeling, but what you gain is so much more. It's a comfortable thing as this person slowly morphs into your other half. I realized that it wasn't losing feelings, but my feelings were changing to a deeper love when I still couldn't wait to see my husband at the end of the day, tell him about my day, hear about his, and just spend time wit him.
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