Does she have an odd attraction/fantasy

[mrnella]

I have a married coworker who I've suspected of being mildly attracted to me the last few years. At times I'm convinced of it but other times have my doubts. I can sense a nervousness in her alot of times when I'm around. I've never been able to tell if this is due to a hidden attraction or if it's her just being uneasy or cautious around another man while married. She is a very hard person to read - very introverted and quiet most of the time.

 

She and I along with another lady eat lunch together. We usually have a light conversation w some work bs and gossip mixed in. About two weeks ago, after we were done she came up to me in private and asked me if I would do her a favor. Blushing and nervous she asked if I would drive her to the hospital if she went into labor at work. She preceded this by saying that she didn't want to ask me in front of the other woman at lunch so I wouldn't be embarrassed. I was a little surprised but then said sure - it would be my pleasure. She seemed releaved and we laughed abt it for a few seconds and that was that.

 

I didn't think a whole lot abt it until I told my wife later that night. My wife and this woman like each other and even worked on a week long project together a few yrs ago (my wife doesn't work with us though). They'll talk at our work parties and are Facebook buddies but not much more than that. Anyway, my wife was shocked that she had asked me instead of any of the women I work with - especially the other woman that we eat lunch with. I told her maybe she asked me so as not to offend any of the other ladies - I don't know. She asked me if this was some kind of weird sexual fantasy of hers - having me drive her to the hospital while in labor. I hadn't thought of it in that way and did feel kinda guilty then. The more I thought abt it though it seemed odd to sexually fantasize abt someone else driving you to the hospital. Maybe she just felt more comfortable having a man take her (I'm the only male at my office aside from my boss).Also, early on in her pregnancy I'd told her to ask me for help with anything around the office like heavy boxes or reaching something.

 

It did make me more suspective of her having some level of attraction toward me though. If I make you nervous or somewhat uncomfortable in a negative way I doubt you'd ask me to be present during such an important and personal time in your life. We would be alone together with no possibilty of anything happening but who's to say as I'm driving her she wouldn't start to deliver the child or at the least be in God awful pain and need to be comforted in some way. I doubt the last thing a woman in labor wants around her is anything that's going to make her anymore uncomfortable.

 

Then a week later it happened. About 45 min after lunch she went into labor. The women at work all started taking care of her as she timed her contractions. I tried to stay out of the way but told her to let me know if and when she needed to go. She said no - that she had gotten a hold of her husband already and he was on his way. I said OK let me know if I can help w anything. I went back to my desk very confussed. If you called your husband right away and he was almost there - then why did you ask me to do it in the 1st place. I'm not upset that she called him (she should) but it did make my wife's assumption of some kind of sexual fantasy seem more realistic. She may have never had any intentions of me taking her. Maybe by asking me about it and agreeing it made some kind fantasy all that more realistic for her - I don't know

 

This whole thing has me both curious and confused. Has anyone had or heard of such a fantasy or dealt with a similar situation. For the record my wife and I have discussed this. She sticks by here theory but Im still not sold. I have learned over the years though that women have an uncanny ability to read other women better than any man could ever dream of. Just curious to hear if anyone else has been in a similar situation, fantasizes abt something similar, or just any general opinions.

[big dog]

sounds like you're making something outta nothing. I wouldn't worry about it anymore. I seriously doubt that of all things would be some sort of twisted sexual thing. More like just checking to make sure she had all bases covered in case her husband couldn't take her etc... you never know what someone is thinking but it sounds kinda like she trusted you to get her there in the emergency instead of some of the others there. That's all. Some women ( and men) can get a bit paranoid in situations like that. Especially if it's their first child etc... I don't think i'd read much else into it.

[GunslingerRoland]

I think you and your wife are reading too much into it. She may have just thought you to be more reliable/dependable than the other people in the office.

[RecentChange]

Granted, I have never had a child..... But I imagine sexual fantasy is one of the last things on a woman's mind when preparing to squeeze a baby out of such s small space!!