Coollaxer Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 We've been together for almost 8 months and it's been good for the most part.. ( check previous posts) but all the sudden she keeps questioning me if I love her or not. Not to harass be but because she truley feels the need to ask. She says I'm not so lovey Dovey anymore or like kiss her out of no where or give her butterflies. She says she misses the feeling of butterflies, but she says she doesn't like how we always stay in the house and watch Netflix together or just lay on the couch but the last month we have been going out, shopping, going to eat, a lot. So I've been trying to take her out alit and I have been but she says that we only sit inside and don't explore or be adventurous. Am I doing anything wrong? I'm not sure how to handle this to make her happy but I don't want to go out and party every weekend you know, and she also says she thinks we've been bickering a lot, but the honest reason is that she kinda yells at me a lot or gives me an attitude when she doesn't like the way something goes. Not that she's trying to but I haven't been able to handle it that much anymore so when she gives me an attitude i tend to give her one right back now, not to be mean but it's not fair for me to just take it and not give it back, Idk does Anyone have any advice?
Ami1uwant Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Hard to say. If she is complaining about this or that..tell her to be the one who leads the date snd decided east yo do. If your behavior in display of affection has changed then that will make her wonder if your feelings about her has changed.
Redhead14 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 We've been together for almost 8 months and it's been good for the most part.. ( check previous posts) but all the sudden she keeps questioning me if I love her or not. Not to harass be but because she truley feels the need to ask. She says I'm not so lovey Dovey anymore or like kiss her out of no where or give her butterflies. She says she misses the feeling of butterflies, but she says she doesn't like how we always stay in the house and watch Netflix together or just lay on the couch but the last month we have been going out, shopping, going to eat, a lot. So I've been trying to take her out alit and I have been but she says that we only sit inside and don't explore or be adventurous. Am I doing anything wrong? I'm not sure how to handle this to make her happy but I don't want to go out and party every weekend you know, and she also says she thinks we've been bickering a lot, but the honest reason is that she kinda yells at me a lot or gives me an attitude when she doesn't like the way something goes. Not that she's trying to but I haven't been able to handle it that much anymore so when she gives me an attitude i tend to give her one right back now, not to be mean but it's not fair for me to just take it and not give it back, Idk does Anyone have any advice? She told you what she's missing and wants -- She says I'm not so lovey Dovey anymore or like kiss her out of no where or give her butterflies. She says she misses the feeling of butterflies, Be spontaneous with your affection, tell her you love her out of the blue, bring her some flowers or a trinket she's said she likes. Go out for a hike or a bike ride. Come up behind her and kiss her neck when she's cooking or cook her dinner one night. Be creative, be like you were when you were dating her.
Qboro90 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 When she complains and gets on you for now being lovey dovey and going out, or giving her butterflies then reply and tell her that she should give you more reasons to instead of making it feel like you need to put on a show in order to prove your love. It's never going to be like the first few months of dating. That fades with everyone. But you can still keep it fun and exciting and spontaneous by keeping the spark alive. Does she plan any weekends or nights out? If it's all on you then I'd be pissed about that too. If she wants to do something then by all means, make a suggestions and we'll do it.
Gaeta Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Cool: Your girlfriend is 18. She has a Disney World definition of love. She probably hears her girlfriends talking about how their boyfriend do this and that and she's thinking her boyfriend doesn't do it anymore. Guess what? it's normal for the butterflies to settle after 8 months dating. You can only do your best. If your best is not enough and all you get is yelled at then it's time to end this relationship. 2
ajaysutton Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Cool, I think it's a great time to ask yourself if this is the relationship you want to be in for a long time. If 8 months into it she kind of yells at you a lot, and when she gives you attitude you give it right back to her, and there's no butterflies, and she doesn't want to hang out with you but only wants to be entertained... It doesn't sound like an excellent foundation to build on. 1
kendahke Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Well, it IS winter and unless you like freezing your butt off, you're going to pretty much stay inside and hibernate. Also, Christmas and the holidays were last month--stands to reason you were out and about doing stuff like buying gifts for whomever. I agree with Gaeta--she's quite immature and really needs to deal with her psychological mess with a therapist. She really doesn't need a boyfriend--she needs a shrink if what you say about her past sexual abuse is the truth.
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