MorbidAngel Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 First of all let me say that English is not my native language so I m sorry for any grammar mistakes... Second: I've read tons and tons of articles and other literature regarding body language,signs of affection etc etc. but still cant figure out signals that I keep getting from my co-worker. Yes,I like her...and I like her very much...I don't know if she feels the same about me but keep reading and you tell me if there is something or it s just my imagination... "Signs": -When she sees me,she smiles and kiss me on cheek,she even hugs me in the process but not always. -She always sits near me or across from me,her legs are crossed and yes she turns her body towards me in other situations when she sits across the table from me -She plays with her hair,flicking her hair from one side to another and exposing her neck to me while she does that,always fixing her clothes...trying to cover her hips with her t-shirt,etc. -She´s touches my hand while we sit and talk,punches me lightly in my biceps,place her hand on my shoulder,etc... -Couple weeks ago even our legs intertwined below the table while we were sitting and talking...she didn't move her legs,neither did I.... Beside this we share some similar interests in music,movies etc Now comes the trickier part: I asked her couple of times on a date and she refused with no apparent reason... We don't text each other much,or hear from each other over the phone. Yes,we had some extensive communication via WA and Viber before but now not so much Although she does responds on every message I sent. Allegedly she has a relationship but I highly doubt that because she said so in a very unconvincing manner.... So tell me...what do you think about all this? Did I really misinterpreted "signals" or there is something going on? Thank you....
Robratory Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 The fact that she declined your invitations is really all you need to know. As far as her flirtiness goes, put a stop to it. No more kissing, no more punching of biceps. Don't lecture her or anything, but just don't let it happen.
PogoStick Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 The body language is a good sign, but turning you down is a horrible sign. She might just like your attention and loves you chasing her. Agreed, put a stop to it. Get a girlfriend and have her pick you up from work for lunch. Then give your GF a big kiss in front of the tease!
Spikiera Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 She doesn't like you in a romantic way. Move on. 1
angel.eyes Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Now comes the trickier part: I asked her couple of times on a date and she refused with no apparent reason... We don't text each other much,or hear from each other over the phone. Yes,we had some extensive communication via WA and Viber before but now not so much Although she does responds on every message I sent. Allegedly she has a relationship but I highly doubt that because she said so in a very unconvincing manner.... So tell me...what do you think about all this? Did I really misinterpreted "signals" or there is something going on? Thank you.... Nothing tricky here. She has refused to date you. In other words she doesn't see you in a romantic way. You're just friends in her mind. If, as you insinuate, she lied to you about being in a relationship, it just emphasizes that she really wants to make it clear that dating is not an option here. Again, you're just friends and nothing more from her perspective. If you're looking to date, you'll have to find someone else. 1
Author MorbidAngel Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 Dude you are friend zoned. Doesn't look and feel that way...maybe I'm blinded with my feelings for her atm but I've been in the friend zone once before and I managed to escape from that dark place Nothing tricky here. She has refused to date you. In other words she doesn't see you in a romantic way. You're just friends in her mind. If, as you insinuate, she lied to you about being in a relationship, it just emphasizes that she really wants to make it clear that dating is not an option here. Again, you're just friends and nothing more from her perspective. If you're looking to date, you'll have to find someone else. Yeah,you're probably right and in some part of my mind am I aware of that,but what bothers me is those "signals" I mentioned above. This ain't my first rodeo,won't be the last either,but majority of my previous relationships was started after those kind of signals. I won't say that this is the first time that I receive mixed signals also, but this time is,let's say, different, weird,I don't know how to describe it...it feels that I'm missing something that's right in front of my eyes but I can't see it... It feels like my mind,my heart and my intuition are all speaking at the same time and they all speak differently and in a cacophony of voices I appreciate your words and help
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