changeofseasons Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) Hello all I've been in an LDR for 4 months now, we met online and have met up a few times. After the first time we met (which was lovely) I decided the smartest thing to do was get on birth control, even though we see each other once or so a month. The hormones drove me crazy, i turned into a monster and i would be crabby or passive aggressive towards him, he kept telling me he wasn't happy with it but we kept on going. Last weekend i drove all the way from NM to CA to spend the weekend with him, first part of it was great but the last part we fought over dumb little things. We're both loners, so i think it was mostly being around someone for that long. After i returned he was still a bit annoyed with me and i tried to give him space, it seemed to help. Then on Friday he had a bit of a freak out when he saw other guys commenting on my new profile pic, i had a small conversation with a guy that i don't know, he's just a random add, and i liked my high school friends comment which was just a heart eyes emoji (haven't seen this guy since junior year of high school) he said it looked bad, and it really hurt him. So he got incredibly upset and is still mad at me. We discussed it last night after he cooled off. He said that if he were to make a decision now, he would just break up with me, but he's taking time to think of it because he still cares about me. But, with this convo i said that no one would be mean/passive-aggressive and he did try to take a few shot at me (I'm a little mad i didn't stand up for myself, but due to him being irritated, it would've just made matters worst.) Right now, I'm leaving him alone, no texting, and I'm staying off of facebook for now. I've been taking care of my part of the problem. I'm no longer on my birthcontol and that has made a HUGE difference. I just don't know what to do until he decides, im trying to stay busy, but it still bothers me. What can i do to keep my sanity? Edited January 10, 2016 by changeofseasons
spiderowl Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 If a guy says he needs time to decide whether to be with your or not, don't give him time to decide. Decide for him. Break it off. He is already checking out or he wouldn't have said that. Don't give him the advantage of being the one to call it a day. 2
Author changeofseasons Posted January 11, 2016 Author Posted January 11, 2016 I'm not gonna lie, i've wanted to. Its not respectful of my feelings, but how would i go about it?
d0nnivain Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 LDRS require trust. You two are already having too much drama over nonsense like social media. The relationship is too new to be this complicated. Think long & hard about how much effort you really want to put into something that is already a p.i.t.a. only 120 days & approximately 4 meetings in.
Author changeofseasons Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 He still is unsure/hasn't made a decision. I've been pretty patient, haven't been having any freakouts and we've been getting along fine. Whenever i get fed up i want to break it off but can't get myself to do it. We've thought about waiting until I move there, but we've acknowledged the fact that we might find other people.
Author changeofseasons Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 Sorry for the double post, but we've decided to stay together, weirdly enough, he asked me if i slept with anyone since we started talking...which has been for 4 months now. weird. He said he was just looking for validation but it was still random
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