Verbal Graffiti Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Me and my gf have known each other for about a year and been dating for about 6 months. Everything is cool when we're at my place, but when we're out with friends or in public, it's like I'm more of just a buddy to her. She will never get close to me, friends might say dating comments and she will get mad. In photos, she will take photos with other people and only with me as a group. Never wants to go out unless with a group of our friends. When we do go out together alone like to the beach, she doesn't want me to take any photos of me and her. Is it just me, or does she want everyone to think we're are just friends. If I talk to her about something like this, she will take it the wrong way.
smackie9 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Because she isn't really your GF.....she is keeping her options open. Possible cuddle b ich
Robratory Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 It certainly looks like she doesn't want people to know you're a couple, and you think you can't even talk to her about it. I think your options are to accept it or to leave. If you're getting sex, weigh one against the other, but now you know how she's defined the relationship.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 She wants to appear single. This is bad. Do her friends know you're her boyfriend? The fact that she gets mad about "dating comments" tells me she is immature and wanting to keep her options open. 2
mortensorchid Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 She wants to appear single to others in real life as well as online. She doesn't want to appear attached to you. Consider if this is what you really want from her, I would not be happy with it myself if someone was constantly saying they didn't want to be out in public or meeting my friends / family.
Space Ritual Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Me and my gf have known each other for about a year and been dating for about 6 months. Everything is cool when we're at my place, but when we're out with friends or in public, it's like I'm more of just a buddy to her. She will never get close to me, friends might say dating comments and she will get mad. In photos, she will take photos with other people and only with me as a group. Never wants to go out unless with a group of our friends. When we do go out together alone like to the beach, she doesn't want me to take any photos of me and her. Is it just me, or does she want everyone to think we're are just friends. If I talk to her about something like this, she will take it the wrong way. It may be more than keeping her options open. She may in fact already have a significant other or others unbeknownst to you and is scared somebody will let the cat out of the bag. Has the possibility of this crossed your mind yet? People who act like this generally have something to hide. If I were you I wouldn't put up with it. If you are good enough to be a couple in private, then you are good enough to be a couple in public. Sorry, you are just a partner of convenience to her. If you can accept that, fine. Just keep in mind you are probably not the only one. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Dude..I can't believe you've actually put up with that for all this time. You need to have a serious talk with her about it. If she still insists on doing the couple in private and strangers in public routine, you need to end it.
TunaCat Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 She probably already HAS a significant other. They may be long distance and she doesn't want it to get back to the SO that she was being all cuddly & couple-y with you. Nip that in the bud now. I'm astonished you've put up with it as long as you have already.
kendahke Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Yep, I think she's got someone else--he's probably in the military or someplace that keeps him away from her for long stretches of time and that's why she doesn't want pictures of you and her alone taken--because she doesn't want anyone else in a "six degrees of separation" way to show the photos to her boyfriend. I'd dump her. Anyone who can't publicly declare for you needs to be dropped off at the mall.
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Could I ask, is this the same girl you mentioned in this thread? I have to say, it seems like a distinctly bizarre relationship.... 1
Space Ritual Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Could I ask, is this the same girl you mentioned in this thread? I have to say, it seems like a distinctly bizarre relationship.... LOL I agree. I still think that she is seeing more than one guy and maybe she is compartmentalizing things with the dinner payment thing.. does that sound plausible Tara? If Op pays for her dinner then she figures someone else at the table will automatically think they are an item, which obviously she does not want. Still seems to me she is scared of being found out by somebody she may run into in public. Its really all I can think of at this point.
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