barbossa Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I didn't want to break up but she had decided it was over. I had to accept. i have tried to not message her but I am so used to sending her message everytime i notice something interesting, endlessly i look at my phone but she hardly ever responds. by new years i thought i would make a clean break but i always end up messaging her. I live on our great past memories. and can't shut up about it to her. It is pathetic that i know but i find it hard to stop myself but i fail we used to message each other all the time, several times daily, talk at phone at night. I miss her terribly. I miss us. I did not care about guys messaging her or liking her pictures on social media but now it makes me mad, Now that i know i can't have I get jealous. I have been out with new girls and tried to keep busy with activities and fitness talk to women at socials and been out a few times ( and totally leave out subjects related to my ex) but they seem to want the attention and me taking them out but nothing substantial. I find dating to be so much mental work, which makes me miss my ex even more. I live in the happy memory days of our past,
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 No, you don't. You keep yourself stuck in the misery of knowing it's over, yet clinging onto something impossible. I suggest you get therapy, because every practical move you could make to stop yourself making a fool of yourself, you could easily over come, such as blocking her number or deleting it from your phone. Short of getting a 24/7 buddy with a cattle-prod, to poke you every time you text her, I'm not sure what else to advise. 2
thejabberwocky Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Stop torturing yourself. Delete her and block her on all social media so you won't be reminded of her or even see who likes her photos. Then block her number. I know it's hard, but this way you will never know if she's trying to contact you and you won't obsess over it. You don't have to do this forever, just try it for a couple months and see how it goes. It'll help you move on and at the very least, make you look better in her eyes because she won't see you being pathetic anymore. It gets easier! 1
katiegrl Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) I didn't want to break up but she had decided it was over. I had to accept. i have tried to not message her but I am so used to sending her message everytime i notice something interesting, endlessly i look at my phone but she hardly ever responds. by new years i thought i would make a clean break but i always end up messaging her. I live on our great past memories. and can't shut up about it to her. It is pathetic that i know but i find it hard to stop myself but i fail we used to message each other all the time, several times daily, talk at phone at night. I miss her terribly. I miss us. I did not care about guys messaging her or liking her pictures on social media but now it makes me mad, Now that i know i can't have I get jealous. I have been out with new girls and tried to keep busy with activities and fitness talk to women at socials and been out a few times ( and totally leave out subjects related to my ex) but they seem to want the attention and me taking them out but nothing substantial. I find dating to be so much mental work, which makes me miss my ex even more. I live in the happy memory days of our past, If she blocked your phone number (which she probably has by now) she's not getting your texts anyway, so what's the point? Writing can be very cathartic, perhaps starting a daily journal would be a better idea. I recently ended a relationship, and I've got one going myself. It helps a lot! Edited January 10, 2016 by katiegrl
sportygirl89 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Have you tried volunteering at all? It will get you past this. Get a friend to delete or block her number. I had a first major love. I did this. I wasted 2 years of my life. I second the therapy idea. I don't get the two years back. You still have your chance. You will move on from this I promise. But please do not waste years doing this or trying to get your ex back. She has moved on ,so respect her and her future potential relationships. Don't be annoying to her.
fitnessfan365 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I'm guessing she doesn't respond because...she's your ex?
mortensorchid Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I've been there, we can all be needy and send those "I miss you" texts to someone. The best thing to do is to erase her number and all threads on your phone, then find something else to do. Do some volunteer work, get involved in your community in some way - make yourself useful to others rather than sit around and feel sorry for yourself, because that's what you are doing. Don't be ashamed, we have all been there, but you must pull yourself out of the gutter and do something with yourself.
fitnessfan365 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I still say that having a break up can be one of the best fitness motivators ever. You not only workout way more to keep busy, but all the emotion helps you push yourself harder.
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