Barbarella44 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 its been 2.5 months. Ive worked hard to make some sort of peace but yet there are days of good and days of bad. I feel like the pain is lessened in my heart. I can almost appreciate and be happy that things went the way they went. It was not a healthy thing for me.. and he knew that he could not be what I deserved We spoke and he is still feeling pain too. I have refused friendship which i think even adds to the pain. He never expected to not have me in his life. He just expected to be able to make a new life with someone and I would always be there. It was something special. It would have never worked in our current states but there was something special there. Both of us wouldn't be hurting this long if it wasn't. Now i feel sorry for him tho. Not that he doesnt have me.. because thats is own fault.. but because I cant imagine being where he is His new woman starts school this month.. he had said all along "we will see what happens when she starts school in January". He put up an initial barrier from the start... dont get too close because she might be gone. Now he is trying to handle the emotions of loosing me... All those emotions mixed up into one. Which ones are real? For whom? All those things... See.. I have seen the bottom already. There is only up. Lightning could strike twice and this could be something special with his new lady... or it could crash down to an even lower place. There is no certainty. I am certain that there is only good to be had..... Am I the only one who feels this way? I cant fix his pain.. this is his mess to make. He will be stronger for it. Doesnt make it any less sad.
Amelie1980 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 If he dumped you and has a new woman I honestly dont think he cares as much as you think he does. If at all. 1
LydiaLong Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Seriously? You're feeling sorry for someone who dumped you and got a new girlfriend? Hmmmm 1
Author Barbarella44 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 There are more than enough people who have stated that the breakup has the same painful effect on both people. Moving to another woman doesn't lessen any of that. It creates a displacement of attention and masks emotions. In some cases it extends the pain. There is no love lost in this thing with him. there were just too many obstacles to make it work.
Author Barbarella44 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 Seriously? You're feeling sorry for someone who dumped you and got a new girlfriend? Hmmmm It's so wrong that I wabt him to find happiness in his life? An uphill battle unfortunately. But happiness none the less.
kidm Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Even if he's in unimaginable pain (which I highly doubt it), the fact that he chooses that over being with you is enough to let you know that the pity you feel for him is displaced. If someone truly wants to be with you, NOTHING will keep them away. Nothing. He is exactly where he wants to be, doing what (and whom) he wants to do. That's the reality. Why would any sane person subject themselves to the pain and anguish you've described by leaving the love of his life? This ain't the notebook. Reality is always less glamorous.
LilMama1097 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 You kind of sound delusional. Not trying to be mean but if he was really torn up over losing you he would either a. Be trying to get you back or b. Be trying to get you back. Instead he's with someone else and probably stringing you a long as a back up. This is honesty, not being mean. Also if he broke up with you because he thought you deserved better, he would of disappeared, not strung you along while boinking another female. Actions speak so much louder than words.
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