newmoon Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Not at all in the woman's best interest, unless all she cares about is money or she thinks he's the only one who would have her... which could easily be the case here... divorced, kids, older... prospects are much fewer than they would have been in younger years and divorce brings on a host of self-esteem issues. reaching out to someone who once liked you/felt you were attractive is very common. it helps raise the self-esteem again. she's probably in a low self-worth phase and this guy helps infuse some hope back.. sees her as 'young' and etc. 1
RedRobin Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 which could easily be the case here... divorced, kids, older... prospects are much fewer than they would have been in younger years and divorce brings on a host of self-esteem issues. reaching out to someone who once liked you/felt you were attractive is very common. it helps raise the self-esteem again. she's probably in a low self-worth phase and this guy helps infuse some hope back.. sees her as 'young' and etc. Exactly, which is why I have no problems encouraging friendship and mutual support... We all need that... I just see no need to sexualize or romanticize gaps this large...
Popsicle Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I usually don't think large age gaps are good (just pure opinion), but at their age I don't think it's that big of a deal. Shes not naive or in denial and knows what she'd be getting into and still wants to so that's beautiful. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 Do you believe in 'soul mate' Well if said 'soul mate' was some married guy who was 20 years older and acting very inappropriately with an 18 year old TEENAGE girl who was barely out of high school, then no, I don't believe in 'soul mates.' "Disgusting, mid-life crisis pervert" would be a more appropriate description. Sounds as though Father time is now looking for someone to take care of him in his declining years. Who better than the teenager he was grooming for a long term affair? I wouldn't spit on this guy if he were on fire. He's revolting. 3
loveflower Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I have dated two women that were significantly older than I am. . what is your definition of significant? 5 yr? 10 yrs? 15 yrs? why you dated women so much older? just curious...
Author RaeB Posted January 14, 2016 Author Posted January 14, 2016 which could easily be the case here... divorced, kids, older... prospects are much fewer than they would have been in younger years and divorce brings on a host of self-esteem issues. reaching out to someone who once liked you/felt you were attractive is very common. it helps raise the self-esteem again. she's probably in a low self-worth phase and this guy helps infuse some hope back.. sees her as 'young' and etc. Between you and RedRobin you sound like you are describing a piece of meat and how much longer it should be on the shelf and is the expiry date too close. Really!!! I do not have low self esteem I am not a 16 year old child going weak at the knees wondering if I will ever find love nor am I past my prime and now wear adult nappies to save any embarrassment. I am disappointed at the some of the comments here that you believe I am looking for what you call 'hope' . . . hope for what I ask, a more simplistic life, filled with a person who values me for who I am, who genuinely has an interest in what I say and what I want to do. This is not a last ditch desperate effort in finding love, and nor am I ever going to justify myself to you in that regard. You can take your so-called statistics and your simple narrow-minded view of this world and the people in it go annoy someone elses thread cause as I see no value in what you say other than for the whole purpose of humiliation. To all those who gave encouragement and saw problem in at least see where it leads 'thank you' and I truly wish you well. Take care and good health and happiness to you. 1
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