lv728n Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I’m in a bit of a confusing situation… I met this girl on a trip abroad in Europe. We hung out a few times…nothing happened beyond friendly things. She’s Australian and I’m American. We went back to our separate homes/countries and have been talking/texting ever since. I suggested we meet up in Argentina in a couple of weeks. She agreed. We’ve actually booked/planned everything and it’s actually happening. I’m into her…but can’t really tell if she is into me as I’ve gotten mixed signals when we hung out and over text. Although she did say she missed me and hanging out with me after we parted…which could be nothing. Anyways…would a girl just travel so far alone and then spend time with a guy she hung out with a few times if there wasn’t romantic interest on her side as well?
morbot_k Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Anything is possible. You haven't given enough to tell. People are complex. Maybe she trusts you a lot. Maybe she is attracted to you. Who the heck knows. Here what you should do - have a blast, just have fun and not worry about it. If she is interested in you the thing that will drive up her interest is if you are having fun and not worried about it (but do pay attention to the signs). If she just sees you as a friend then nothing will happen anyway. In other words, if she is not overtly showing interest, you really don't have much options here but to enjoy your vacation and her as a friend. Doesn't mean you can't tease her and be playful though.
Robratory Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Well, she was traveling alone far away from home when you met her, it seems like, and Argentina is actually a few hundred miles closer to Australia than Europe is, so I don't think the fact that she's going means she has a romantic interest. Maybe she's just a world traveler. Must be nice to have the money to just take off halfway across the globe whenever the whim strikes! But yes, at this point, you're pretty much stuck going along and being very observant. You can't really make much of a move because, if she rejects you, how can you continue the trip with her? For next time, let the girl know you're into her before this point. By her reaction, you'll know if she's into you, and look, if she is into you, you'll make her day, and if she's not into you, well, who cares? Thanks, and seeyaround.
lehcar Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 regardless, theres not much of a future there unless you plan on moving to Australia or she plans on moving to wherever you live. Chances are, she has at least a mild interest in you or else she wouldn't be going. But unless you're just looking for a very expensive hookup, what does it matter?
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 It's impossible to say, on one hand it sounds pretty difficult to believe that she'd go to all of that effort just to see a friend... but if she's into travelling, maybe she's just happy to have a travelling buddy and wants to see Argentina? Maybe she just likes adventures and is happy to have found a new friend to do it with. Only she knows. It could make things really awkward if you bring it up before seeing her, if she doesn't feel the same way, so I'd recommend you go on the trip and see how things are in person. It'll be easier to get a feel for her feelings then, and towards the end of the trip you can see whether it feels appropriate to be more touchy feely, or to initiate a talk about feelings. For now, just treat it as a fun trip with a friend, then you can't be disappointed if that's all it is.
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