I don't know if I still love her.

[Itsfriday]

Me and my ex have been together for over three years. We started back talking and its a difficult thing. Likey precious posts. Sometimes she's interested then she's not. My problem here is, idk if i still really love her or im just attached.

 

She was my 1st real relationship and i really like her. We got so close and shared so much. She became my best friend and we werw really good.

 

Now i just dont know. I want to get back with her but am i doing it for the wrong reasons? Is it because im lonely? Or because i spent so much time with her. I really dont k ow and i do not want to make a bad decision here.

 

Really need some help here.

[ajaysutton]

The thing that was most telling to me is that you became best friends. I think if that's the case, it's worth the fight. Relationships ebb and flow. There are ups and downs in all of them. If you're truly in a relationship with your best friend, you've got something going on there that a lot of people only ever dream of.

[Glitters]

The honeymoon period is over and the fog has lifted. The everyday life has set in. This is going to be the time when you decide if it's going to be long term or not.

[thejabberwocky]

I'm gonna disagree and say you broke up for a reason. After 3 years, you definitely get attached just because you're used to having them around. That doesn't necessarily mean you're right for each other.

 

I would say distance yourself and see how that goes. It's hard to get a clear perspective if you're talking and basically pretending to be in the relationship again.

[partycity]

Think about what drew you to her in the first place. Are you also looking at other options? Is this your first relationship? Do you have any issues with commitment?

Edited January 10, 2016 by partycity

[Itsfriday]

The thing that was most telling to me is that you became best friends. I think if that's the case, it's worth the fight. Relationships ebb and flow. There are ups and downs in all of them. If you're truly in a relationship with your best friend, you've got something going on there that a lot of people only ever dream of.

 

We were the best of friends and got to know each other so well. thats why i want to give it another go.

[Itsfriday]

Think about what drew you to her in the first place. Are you also looking at other options? Is this your first relationship? Do you have any issues with commitment?

 

Well we just started out in school. had all our classes together and just talked and talked until we fell in love. No i havent and its kinda hard to because my life is in a mess atm, i would like to though.

 

and yes it is my first relationship. hers as well. no i was always all in, i never had commitment issues.