Rik777 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 So i like this girl at work but unfortunately we work different shifts and barely see each other. I have known her for few months but we have never spoken. A colleague at work hinted my interest to her and told her that she and I will be suited as a couple. Since then I have been looking for all possible ways to communicate with her at work but with little progress. So I decided to try adding her on Facebook, and she accepted my friend request. To start a conversation I wrote: "Hey señorita, thanks for accepting my friend request. Do you remember me, or would you like a brief introduction to brighten up your day? " Her response: "Hey. No I remember your face from work. No worries about accepting your friends request that's what facebooks for. Hope your well." I have established that she is single. She isn't given much away. I have a feeling she is likely to give close answers to my questions. In your opinion What would be the best way to counter her response?
thecrucible Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 To me, I just wouldn't say anything as she has not asked a question or said anything which encourages a response. Your colleague has let her know you are interested in her so the game has been given away now. If she is interested now that she knows you like her, then you will notice soon enough. I would leave at that. 2
katiegrl Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 To me it sounds a bit like a blow off. Sorry. As in, don't think you're special just cuz I accepted your friends request. That's what FB is for, I accept everyone's friends requests. She did not engage you, nothing to keep the convo going = not interested. I would not bother responding at all..... Also, stop trying so hard to be funny or clever, thinking your charming personality will win her over. It usually has the opposite effect. It (your FB message) sounded a bit contrived and cheesy IMO. Senorita? Is she Spanish? Let it go. JMO. 6
nadzz Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I agree, the senorita thing made it sound like you were trying too hard. She will let you know if she's interested in due time, if u keep responding she may get annoyed by you. 2
Wewon Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 So i like this girl at work but unfortunately we work different shifts and barely see each other. I have known her for few months but we have never spoken. A colleague at work hinted my interest to her and told her that she and I will be suited as a couple. Since then I have been looking for all possible ways to communicate with her at work but with little progress. So I decided to try adding her on Facebook, and she accepted my friend request. To start a conversation I wrote: "Hey señorita, thanks for accepting my friend request. Do you remember me, or would you like a brief introduction to brighten up your day? " Her response: "Hey. No I remember your face from work. No worries about accepting your friends request that's what facebooks for. Hope your well." I have established that she is single. She isn't given much away. I have a feeling she is likely to give close answers to my questions. In your opinion What would be the best way to counter her response? One of the worse things I did when I was younger when it came to women that I found interest in was pussyfooting around. In all fairness, being shy, I didn't know exactly what to do or say, so I did a lot of edging up while hoping for some kind of an opening. The problem is, that method was full of anxiety and second guessing myself. The bad side is that this rarely, if ever, resulted in anything positive. Which was extremely frustrating to say the least. One day I decided to approach women, not with the intention of not running them off, but with zero regard for it. I prefered to get rejected right away instead of rejected after several go arounds. Not only did this way leave me feeling better about myself, it got better results. Maybe you can come into work early or leave a little later to have a face to face with her. At least if she rejects you you can move on immediately. 5
GemmaUK Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 She already knows you're interested but the fact she didn't ask any questions in her reply to keep the conversation going strikes me that she isn't interested in you. To be honest if I were you I would leave it there. 2
Author Rik777 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 Good responses soo far but sadly against my hopes of progressing with this lady. I was intending of messaging her and stating that, 'I have heard good stuff about her and that I am proud of her'. But, going by the resonses so far, I think I better leave it there. Modern day dating can be a nightmare! 1
Author Rik777 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 Good responses soo far but sadly against my hopes of progressing with this lady. I was intending of messaging her and stating that, 'I have heard good stuff about her and that I am proud of her'. But, going by the resonses so far, I think I better leave it there. Modern day dating can be a nightmare!
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Good responses soo far but sadly against my hopes of progressing with this lady. I was intending of messaging her and stating that, 'I have heard good stuff about her and that I am proud of her'. But, going by the resonses so far, I think I better leave it there. Modern day dating can be a nightmare! Oh my goodness, please DO NOT send a response like that! Good to know you're taking the advice presented here. I will agree with them as well. Ball is in her court. If anything, ramp up your face to face interactions and see where that goes otherwise be done with it. Good luck. 2
Gaeta Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I am going against the grain here. Ask her out. You did not add her on FB to chit chat, you added her to pursue her then DO IT. You have nothing to lose you already do not have her. 3
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Make a point to introduce yourself to her IRL. Until she figures out who you are, you have no chance. In the meantime stay off her social media because you are basically cyberstalking a stranger. 2
sin miedo Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I am going against the grain here. Ask her out. You did not add her on FB to chit chat, you added her to pursue her then DO IT. You have nothing to lose you already do not have her. I agree with this, but do not ask her over FB! Have a light-hearted face-to-face convo and ask her out. It's a win-win situation for you - she says yes, you have a date; she says no, you forget her and move on to someone who is actually interested in you. 2
smackie9 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Asking someone out over FB or text says "coward"..... women get turned off by anyone who lacks confidence in themselves. Doing it in person shows you are a man and that she is worth the risk of getting turned down. 1
Gaeta Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 In this case here they are working on different schedule and never get to see each other. OP ask for her phone number and call her. Also I got this feeling this girl is very young. She probably does not understand the concept 'the ball is in her court' or how to pursue a man. 1
katiegrl Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 So i like this girl at work but unfortunately we work different shifts and barely see each other. I have known her for few months but we have never spoken. ---- ***A colleague at work hinted my interest to her and told her that she and I will be suited as a couple. ****Since then I have been looking for all possible ways to communicate with her at work but with little progress. ----- So I decided to try adding her on Facebook, and she accepted my friend request. To start a conversation I wrote: "Hey señorita, thanks for accepting my friend request. Do you remember me, or would you like a brief introduction to brighten up your day? " Her response: "Hey. No I remember your face from work. No worries about accepting your friends request that's what facebooks for. Hope your well." I have established that she is single. She isn't given much away. I have a feeling she is likely to give close answers to my questions. In your opinion What would be the best way to counter her response? Quotes in asterisk above --- what makes your colleague think you're well suited for each other? Y'all have never even had a conversation! And in what ways have you been trying to communicate with her at work......and why has there not been any progress? Does she avoid you, or make it difficult for you to talk to her? Clarification would be helpful. 1
Author Rik777 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 I believe she is approximately 25 years old (not certain). I will speak to her face to face and ask her out when the opportunity presents itself. Fantastic responses. Thank you. 1
thecrucible Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I believe she is approximately 25 years old (not certain). I will speak to her face to face and ask her out when the opportunity presents itself. Fantastic responses. Thank you. Great idea. I hope this goes well for you. I think talking to her in person would be more rewarding for you than sending another Facebook message and waiting and wondering on a response.
Author Rik777 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 Quotes in asterisk above --- what makes your colleague think you're well suited for each other? Y'all have never even had a conversation! And in what ways have you been trying to communicate with her at work......and why has there not been any progress? Does she avoid you, or make it difficult for you to talk to her? Clarification would be helpful. My colleagues worked on her team and so he knows a little bit about her. I barely see her. When I do see her she is either surrounded by team mates about to shoot off home. She doesn't mess about when it comes to home time. One thing I am trying to avoid is work related rumours, unless we are already dating. Approaching her when she and colleagues are together and heading home will no doubt prompt rumours. I don't mind rumours, providing she says 'yes' when I asked her out. But if not then that's where my concern lies.
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