loveflower Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I really want to be my bravest and friend request this guy, because he shows up on my 'people you may know list'..........but, on a second thought, I guess I better not to, because I have a abysmal fb account. who could have thought making a fb account looks good (you know with lots of interesting posts/updates and lots of 'like') could be useful?
thecrucible Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 That shouldn't matter if he likes you. If you think you recognise him from somewhere, you could maybe add him and send him a PM and start chatting with him. 1
Author loveflower Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) That shouldn't matter if he likes you. If you think you recognise him from somewhere, you could maybe add him and send him a PM and start chatting with him. He made me wonder if he had a thing for me...but he has never done anything solid besides a couple times of other social media visiting of my profile. years ago when we met first and only face to face to discuss some learning exchange, he got super intense and attuned to my reaction when he mentioned he had a girlfriend...then he come back from my native home region a couple years ago and now he is gone to another place again! How could I ever forget about a guy like him? he spent many years in my home country and home region while I only spent a couple of weeks there in 20 years? He is also physically attractive to me. The problem is: I don't have confidence in my self. I think I am at least 5 years older than him, even though people almost always assume I am 10 years younger than my age by looking at me. He is super successful and intelligent, while I feel like I am the opposite. I just have ZERO confident in myself, that's the main problem besides the fb issue. but I just like him so so much...omg, this is killing me. I think he checked me out on my fb...but he didn't friend requested me apparently. Edited January 10, 2016 by loveflower
thecrucible Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 So how far away from you does he live? It seems like you like him a lot but fantasy may not turn into reality (?). It does no harm talking to him online and asking him how he's been since you last saw him and that sort of thing.
Author loveflower Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 So how far away from you does he live? It seems like you like him a lot but fantasy may not turn into reality (?). It does no harm talking to him online and asking him how he's been since you last saw him and that sort of thing. yes, I know a fantasy...but can't help it. maybe I should just try to live a more busy and fulfilling life, that might help. Yes, I want to just talk to him on fb, but...he probably think less and feel sorry for me when he visit my abysmal fb. don't think he will continue living there for long though...not suitable for human to live, you know one of those coldest place on earth. why on earth he goes there, you know he doesn't have to if he doesn't want to. so he just want to experimenting life more? what a fascinating person.
Curious-One Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 LISTEN lady....us guys dont give a flying *** about the way a girls facebook looks like! If anything when i see a girl that doesnt have 1000 friends on fb i respect her more because she is not a typical social media attention whore. Do you seriously think if i a guy wants to have sex with you he will say naaaah she doesnt post enough on fb. Listen to your self. Only girls judge a guy by his social media because girls want what other girls want. If we like a girl TRUST me lack of social media is not going to make a difference. 2
Author loveflower Posted January 11, 2016 Author Posted January 11, 2016 LISTEN lady....us guys dont give a flying *** about the way a girls facebook looks like! If anything when i see a girl that doesnt have 1000 friends on fb i respect her more because she is not a typical social media attention whore. Do you seriously think if i a guy wants to have sex with you he will say naaaah she doesnt post enough on fb. Listen to your self. Only girls judge a guy by his social media because girls want what other girls want. If we like a girl TRUST me lack of social media is not going to make a difference. Nice to hear that. But how about age difference though?
Els Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 I reeeaaaalllly don't think most guys care about how your FB looks like, unless you have some extremely unflattering photos (passed-out drunk, etc) up. 5 yrs older isn't a big deal either. 2
Author loveflower Posted January 11, 2016 Author Posted January 11, 2016 I reeeaaaalllly don't think most guys care about how your FB looks like, unless you have some extremely unflattering photos (passed-out drunk, etc) up. 5 yrs older isn't a big deal either. I don't even have any selfie any more. I took off them awhile ago. I don't like fb much anymore. I have a couple of fb friends, they are really attention seeker. they constantly post tons of selfie...I find that sickening. it looks like most female are beauties on fb, apparently ps. the 'like' is also like exchange... I don't like any of those things on fb.
Author loveflower Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) I think I and the guy are not in the same league, career wise. I am not where I want to be. next to someone like him I probably will feel inadequate constantly. Edited January 12, 2016 by loveflower
Buddhist Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) Nice to hear that. But how about age difference though? If you're the one they also don't care. If he's attracted to you thats enough. My bf is 15yrs younger than me. He didn't know my age when we met although he knew I was older. When I told him he didn't care. You are making excuses and that's all it is. Put it this way, if you say nothing, do nothing, you'll get nothing. Guaranteed. Don't tell me you'll keep your dignity because judging by these posts it isn't worth keeping. If you send a friend request you might get something. Think about that. Edited January 12, 2016 by Buddhist 2
lino Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 I really want to be my bravest and friend request this guy, because he shows up on my 'people you may know list'..........but, on a second thought, I guess I better not to, because I have a abysmal fb account. who could have thought making a fb account looks good (you know with lots of interesting posts/updates and lots of 'like') could be useful? So sad that we're living in a time when people are concerned with rubbish like Facebook posts and likes. One of the few things that makes me happy to be as old as I am... That I can remember fondly how life was before this crap started. I'd hate to be a born in the 90s kid! 1
lino Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 LISTEN lady....us guys dont give a flying *** about the way a girls facebook looks like! If anything when i see a girl that doesnt have 1000 friends on fb i respect her more because she is not a typical social media attention whore. Do you seriously think if i a guy wants to have sex with you he will say naaaah she doesnt post enough on fb. Listen to your self. Only girls judge a guy by his social media because girls want what other girls want. If we like a girl TRUST me lack of social media is not going to make a difference. 100% truth. 1
Author loveflower Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 I am glad I come to this forum. you people are so intelligent, smart and courageous. I wish you were my friends:) I have a friend. I went with her to the event after the guy came back from oversea and checked out my profile on this social media that held the event. I came and noticed he gradually moved to my area and talking to a woman. I got bored and just walked by them, he didn't look at me and just kept talking so I just walked right by him with my female friend. I asked my friend what she think of the guy after we left the venue, she said he looks so young....I gathered she meant he is too young for me...I guess after that I got deflated?
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