Quoting Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 My ex girlfriend is now talking to a guy she works with and says she really likes him. I'm hoping because they work together that it won't workout, but who knows. Has anybody dated somebody they worked with before?
carhill Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 A lot of folks meet partners and spouses at work these days. Perhaps focus on meeting some potentials yourself? Sounds like this relationship is concluded and you've each moved on. As my best friend's wife once told me when my exW and I were divorcing, there's another pair of boots at her door and it's nunya, meaning none of my business. I found that to be sage advice. Good luck! 1
fitnessfan365 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I'm curious why you're concerning yourself with who your ex GF likes. Since you're no longer with her, you should try to focus more on moving on and meeting someone new. 1
lehcar Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Yes, they can and do work out often. Probably best to stop concerning yourself with her love life, and start caring about your own. You say that she 'says she really likes him' which to me suggests that you are talking to her about the men in her life... If that's the case, that's only going to prevent you from moving on and definitely going to hurt you more in the long run. Best to not know anything about what she is doing or who she is doing it with 1
smudge21 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 She's your ex... why do you know about her life? Sounds like you're holding on hoping for some second chance there. Move on, let go, meet others. Her life isn't your life.
Author Quoting Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 We haven't been broke up but for a few months after 3 years. So it's still kind of fresh and it's hard when I still love and care about her and want to be with her. But it was 95% my fault she ended it which sucks worse. And she is the type to move on quickly she did it with me when she was with her ex for 7 years and had 2 kids together. They weren't apart for a few months when we started talking.
carhill Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 So, you know her style. It isn't gonna change. Some women are wired that way. My exW was. It's instructive.
Author Quoting Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 She just told me 2 days ago she's actually talking to the guy and now she's posting on Facebook Bowling with 5 hearts and happy with a heart and all this crap. Is she doing that to make me jealous or just doing it to do it? Because she knows I'm hurtin she's talking to somebody else
carhill Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Default is she doesn't care. Always start there, with any real or potential interaction. Accept that she doesn't care unless and until she demonstrates, with words and actions matching, that she does care. Your life will go a lot more pleasantly once you let go of this need to understand the inexplicable. I guess it will come in due time. 2
Wisecrack Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Your ex is your ex for a reason regardless if it was you or her that was the problem. Move on, give her not thought because to ever go backwards is to bring up the problems you both had because actions can be forgiven but memories forever inked.
Gruesome Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Personal experience, current girlfriend and I have worked together for 2.5 years, just now got together - going really well. My sous chef and his wife work together, met at work. Two of our servers are also married - met at work. Might just be the restaurant I work in, but I'm not sure.
bu2002 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Have known plenty of people who met at work. It's an environment you spend a lot at and get to know a lot of people. It can be a common romantic link as you can get to know someone slowly without the pressure or games of dating. In many cases, it might be someone you weren't that attracted to initially, but as you go to know them, a connection formed.
truth_seeker Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 She just told me 2 days ago she's actually talking to the guy and now she's posting on Facebook Bowling with 5 hearts and happy with a heart and all this crap. Is she doing that to make me jealous or just doing it to do it? Because she knows I'm hurtin she's talking to somebody else You should be blocking her (phone, texting, social media) so you can forget about her. Of course she's posting all of this to piss you off. She knows you'll see it on Facebook.
Popsicle Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Yes, they can last but for your own good, you really should not be talking to her or be her FB friend if you still have feelings for her.
brothers343 Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Any relationship can last, even the real bad ones. Thats why they invented forums like these. She's moved on and you are standing in quick sand. And you know what happens when you stand still to long. Don't you?? 1
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