Quoting Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 So me and my ex girl had been together for almost 3 years. I'm not exactly positive when we actually broke up but it's probably been 2 months. She says she really likes this new guy and they have been out Mabey 5-6 times in a month. She works with the guy. I'm not sure what to do. I still love and care about her but I don't wanna hurt and hold on when she's with somebody else. That thought drives me insane. What would you do in this situation? Would you wait and see where it goes between them or just let go and move on.
smudge21 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Sorry, your EX is telling you about another guy, even about her life. Why? Why do you care? Who dumped who here? The fact is, you're split up. Maybe she's doing this to get your attention or just to feed her own ego, the fact remains that you shouldn't be in contact with her if it still affects you so much. That's not moving on, that's holding on. Let go and cut all contact. I know that's hard, especially these days, but you'll only get stuck in a rut otherwise, constantly aware of her life and thinking about it.
Author Quoting Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Well once I found out she was talking to another guy I asked those questions and she told me.
basil67 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 She's moving on. It's time for you to do the same 1
Author Quoting Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 (edited) She just told me that she's actually talkin to the guy 2 days ago and now she's posting on Facebook happy with hearts and were bowling with 5 hearts....is she doing that purposely to make me jealous or she just doing it to do it? She knows I'm hurtin Edited January 9, 2016 by Quoting
Wewon Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 So me and my ex girl had been together for almost 3 years. I'm not exactly positive when we actually broke up but it's probably been 2 months. She says she really likes this new guy and they have been out Mabey 5-6 times in a month. She works with the guy. I'm not sure what to do. I still love and care about her but I don't wanna hurt and hold on when she's with somebody else. That thought drives me insane. What would you do in this situation? Would you wait and see where it goes between them or just let go and move on. And this is why you cut contact with an ex, especially one that is this insensitive. There is no need to reveal this information 2 months after the end of a 3 year relationship. I'm assuming that your break up was particularly nasty?
preraph Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 You need to just block her and stop looking at her social media or contacting her. You're broken up. That means you both date other people and don't tell each other anything anymore. 1
Blanco Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I read both of your threads. Our situations are so similar that if my ex came across your threads, she might think it's me posting. With that in mind, let me give you some advice as someone who's more far removed from his respective situation than you are with yours: Let it go. Completely. My ex has almost always been in a relationship. She has kids, too, and there was just six months in between her ending things with the father and us starting to date. And there was a rebound guy in between that, too. This, admittedly, has how she has always operated with relationships. For some reason, I was naive enough to think that it would be different after we ended things. Nope. A few weeks before she found a rebound, and then maybe a few more before she found a co-worker for her next relationship. Don't be a fool and torture yourself for months on end by staying connected to her. Stop talking to her. Delete and block on social media. My ex was at least respectful of sparing me details on her new relationship. Yours sounds like she's perhaps a bit vindictive still, perhaps since you claim the relationship failing was mostly your fault. Whatever the case, you two are finished. I was positive my ex's new relationship wouldn't make it more than a couple of months. It's been nearly a year and I would assume they're still together. I'm not comfortable with it entirely, so I remain totally disconnected from her. I suggest you try the same, because any other way will end poorly for you.
mrwigand Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 So me and my ex girl had been together for almost 3 years. I'm not exactly positive when we actually broke up but it's probably been 2 months. She says she really likes this new guy and they have been out Mabey 5-6 times in a month. She works with the guy. I'm not sure what to do. I still love and care about her but I don't wanna hurt and hold on when she's with somebody else. That thought drives me insane. What would you do in this situation? Would you wait and see where it goes between them or just let go and move on. Certainly, let go and move on! And I don't know how you found yourself in a position to hear this information, but you also need to remove whatever allowed that from your life so you can heal. It's okay, you're just not over her yet. That will come in time (unless, you try to keep tabs on her current relationship, thinking you guys will eventually get back together.)
Author Quoting Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 I read both of your threads. Our situations are so similar that if my ex came across your threads, she might think it's me posting. With that in mind, let me give you some advice as someone who's more far removed from his respective situation than you are with yours: Let it go. Completely. My ex has almost always been in a relationship. She has kids, too, and there was just six months in between her ending things with the father and us starting to date. And there was a rebound guy in between that, too. This, admittedly, has how she has always operated with relationships. For some reason, I was naive enough to think that it would be different after we ended things. Nope. A few weeks before she found a rebound, and then maybe a few more before she found a co-worker for her next relationship. Don't be a fool and torture yourself for months on end by staying connected to her. Stop talking to her. Delete and block on social media. My ex was at least respectful of sparing me details on her new relationship. Yours sounds like she's perhaps a bit vindictive still, perhaps since you claim the relationship failing was mostly your fault. Whatever the case, you two are finished. I was positive my ex's new relationship wouldn't make it more than a couple of months. It's been nearly a year and I would assume they're still together. I'm not comfortable with it entirely, so I remain totally disconnected from her. I suggest you try the same, because any other way will end poorly for you. Ya man it sucks cause I still care about her....I am/was hoping their relationship wouldn't last but she's prob sleeping with the dude right now since she hasn't been on her Facebook in 4 hours....I'm in my damn 30s man I'm to old to deal with this **** u know..Ima gonna have to move on but like the last poster said it'll take some time...if we had just ended it it would Be different but for her to be with another dude already is a lot damn worse
Blanco Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 You have to come to terms with the fact that if you're not going to be with her again, it doesn't matter all that much how quickly she got involved with someone else. It stings, I can say from experience, but like your ex, mine had a history of doing this, so it's nothing personal. It's just how they handle this sort of thing. Not sure why you're still Facebook friend with her.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 You need to let go. She is moving on and you need to start doing the same. Delete her from FB. Don't make contact with her.
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