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That is the question

 

I've heard people say to just withdraw on social media and keep them on our list/continue to follow them and i've seen others says its better to unfriend them

 

For me personally i like to block because i like to stay in control, and it honestly hurts me seeing their name pop up while to search for something.

 

Opinions?

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Depends on the reason. Has the person hurt you? Are you just tired of seeing their constant negative posts that bring you down? Do you not want your boss to see the things you post? Can you elaborate a bit?

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I meant for the purposes of getting back eventually, would it cause more trouble to the relationship to unfriend them, or is it better to unfriend and keep your sanity?

 

Sorry, my emotions are everywhere, im not exactly broken up but feel like i might be going in that direction so in a way i feel like i need to hope for the best but prepare for the worst

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Yep, unfriending is usually the best choice if you got dumped. You need to get out of their lives completely.

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Yep, unfriending is usually the best choice if you got dumped. You need to get out of their lives completely.

 

so its more getting out of their lives than for my own sake?

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so its more getting out of their lives than for my own sake?

 

It's for you. Social media is damaging enough to people's self-esteem as it is. I can't imagine throwing an ex into the mix or being tortured by their pics and updates.

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Always block. Nothing on their social media will do anything but hurt you.

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Block, block, block. No matter what you see, it will upset you in some way and keep you from healing and moving on.

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Block, block, block. No matter what you see, it will upset you in some way and keep you from healing and moving on.

 

but what if you're planning on getting back with them months later?

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but what if you're planning on getting back with them months later?

 

For example, stay friends on FB. Just unfollow them.

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but what if you're planning on getting back with them months later?

 

I'd ask what makes the person think they have control of this? This isn't getting your tires rotated. You can't effectively plan to get back with them months later; not with any certainty, anyway.

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but what if you're planning on getting back with them months later?

 

To put it bluntly, if they wanted to be with you they would be with you now, and if they really want to be with you in a few months they'll find a way to contact you regardless of being blocked.

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With my situation its the toll of being far away in an LDR thats making the possibility of the split. The reason why I'm saying months later because i will be moving near him this summer. We both discussed the possibility of trying then, but yeah im totally aware its not 100% guaranteed.

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With my situation its the toll of being far away in an LDR thats making the possibility of the split. The reason why I'm saying months later because i will be moving near him this summer. We both discussed the possibility of trying then, but yeah im totally aware its not 100% guaranteed.

 

Distance does not cause a couple to breakup, it only highlights the issues within the relationship.

 

The main questions I have is who called it off? If the other person called it off, unfriend, block, delete, etc. Never contact them again. You are not their summer fling. You are not someone they can just get up and leave to have fun with other girls while away. If they don't want to stay with you at a distance, they aren't right for you.

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Distance does not cause a couple to breakup, it only highlights the issues within the relationship.

 

The main questions I have is who called it off? If the other person called it off, unfriend, block, delete, etc. Never contact them again. You are not their summer fling. You are not someone they can just get up and leave to have fun with other girls while away. If they don't want to stay with you at a distance, they aren't right for you.

 

We're still in the unsure phase, we're getting along now, im leaving him be, but i think he would be the one to do it, i've tried to but couldn't. We talked about dating other people in between and how it would be OK but not ideal either.

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