lehcar Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I've recently begun a new job in a new state, and I've met someone that works in a different department that I'm really interested in. The issue is that he's somewhat reserved so I'm not sure if he's interested in me. Here's our brief background that makes me think he may be: Whenever we're at a group social event, he and I spend the entire time talking to each other. There's been some events that I've asked him if he's going to attend, he says yes, and then when he shows up, other people in his department tell me how weird that is because he never attends those sort of things. I had a small party and invited some people I know, he was the first to arrive, we spoke the entire time and he stayed after to help me clean up. I bumped into him leaving work the other day and asked him if he wanted to grab a drink and we went out for a little over 3 hours and had a great time. That was our only 1-on-1 interaction, everything else has been in a group. However, none of these have ended in a kiss or any sort of romantic gesture. We've hung out in a group maybe 8 times so far and nothing has happened. After my party and after drinks, he sort of hesitated when leaving and then just gave me a hug and said he had a nice time. He's so reserved, that I can't tell if he's just shy and bad at this sort of thing, or if he's just being nice to me and has no interest. Am I wrong thinking he may be interested? If not, what are some suggestions on how I can move this forward? Thanks!
todreaminblue Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 you could bite the bullet and ask him if you like him.....when i say ask i mean invite him somewhere one on one....deb
Author lehcar Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Thanks, todreaminblue and smackie9. I have asked him somehwere 1-on-1, we went out for drinks two nights ago. I've tried flirting a bit but since I'm not sure where his head is at, I haven't been super overt about it. I'm not really used to taking the lead and I'm nervous about embarrassing myself... though maybe that's foolish
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Hun, if you want it you have to flirt your way through it. Nothing more flattering to a man getting the attention for a change. He accepted going out one on one....doesn't that say something? If you don't make your intentions clear enough he is going to look at it as mixed signals and question if there is any true interest. I tell guys to have confidence...but women need to be confident too! 2
Author lehcar Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Thanks, smackie9. I'm going to try and be more openly flirtatious and see if that gets me anywhere
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