My ex is texting me that he has a date, why is he doing this to me?

[Ashley S]

Ok, first off my ex got vicious with me and disrespected me. I was so good to him, cooked for him, cleaned for him, loyal and dedicated, and uplifted him and showed him so much love and compassion. He disrespected me and I was sick of it so I didn't want to be with him anymore. He got vile and vicious with me and said I look like a boy, I am fat and ugly, and I am lousy in bed, he hopes I kill myself, and I have a double chin, and I am disgusting, etc. I just cried and I am still crying on how vicious he got with me. Well I am not contacting him, he texted me at 3 am saying "I can't believe I ever loved a plague like you." I didn't respond to it.

 

Then he texted me an hour ago saying this "I wrecked my car, coming to make sure you are ok. You cursed me by saying I hope you wreck. I've never wrecked a car. I don't wish anything bad on you, but I am moving on. I have a date tonight with someone a little more level headed and already got a new SUV. Take care and good luck. Cya." Like what was the point in that? It just made me cry even more. I only said "I hope you wreck" because he was being so vicious towards me but he said he hopes he wrecks too so he can't pin that on me. But why would he text me that? Is he trying to prove something? Is he trying to torture me? Or does he still have feelings for me? Like from your perspective, what is the point of that text if I am not texting him or calling him. I am ignoring him completely. Thank you.

[smudge21]

Sounds like for most of your "relationship" he was the one who was in control. Now it's over, you're moving on, his ego has been well and truly bruised. A control freak like that, one who likes to put people down and make them feel worthless so they'll fall at his feet, will never accept being put in their place.

 

You need to remove any chance he has to contact you or at the very least, just ignore and delete any texts he sends without even reading them. It saddens me that there are still people like him able to get with anyone, yet decent people are often alone.

 

As hard as it may be you just need to carry on doing what is best for you and find yourself someone who treats you with the respect you deserve. He's not worth your time or energy.

[scubasteve]

Was he the dominant in the relationship? He's still trying to prove he has power over you

[Haydn]

Block him on everything.

[greenleaves54]

Because he's an insecure douchebag.

 

Never text him again.

[Scarlett.O'hara]

Like what was the point in that? It just made me cry even more.

 

He wanted to upset you, that was the point.

 

Is he trying to prove something?

 

Yes, that he is still in control.

 

Is he trying to torture me?

 

He is trying to punish you, that is why you need to block him as well as maintaining no contact, like you are already doing.

 

Or does he still have feelings for me?

 

If this is how he treats someone he has feelings for, I would hate to be his enemy. His influence in your life is toxic.

 

Like from your perspective, what is the point of that text if I am not texting him or calling him.

 

The point is to try and get a reaction because he is being ignored. Silence can be powerful. It gives you control of the situation, and that makes him angry. He may say more horrible things or even the opposite just to get you to react. That is why I urge you to block him now and start to heal from this breakup.

[Wewon]

He sounds nuts, block him in every possible way.