Seriously depressed over being a short man [in the dating world]

[RedRobin]

the height thing is very frustrating for men because many man can take care of themselves, have nice muscles, nice complexion, look good but still not be considered attractive or ideal or whatever for something they can't control at all.

 

 

The same thing is not true with women. A 5'0 woman with an awesome body isn't much less attractive (if at all) to men as a 5'10 woman with an awesome body

 

 

The vast majority of women who are not attractive don't really even try. It's not a question of genetics, it's a question of effort

 

there are lots of things women can't control. They can't control their breast size, overall body shape (hips, no hips). Facial features... Not without major surgery...

 

...and what happens to even attractive women who hit a certain age? Told they are worthless... And if they work in a field that values looks... And that is many, many fields for women. She has a harder time getting hired.

 

So no, I am not feeling an abundance of poor feelings for men who are average height. [] Very, very few people get their pick in the dating world... And even THOSE people have had their share of heartbreak. Seriously. Stop comparing yourself to others and be the most awesome YOU that you can be...

Edited January 13, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Lanugage; member on moderation

[someguy391]

I have been struggling with depression and self-hatred for a while. While I might have some things going for me, I just cannot accept my height (5'8"). No matter what any of you try to say, being this short deeply troubles me. If I were 5'10" or better I know I'd feel a lot better about myself.

 

 

I know that a 5'8" guy (with a lot of work and good luck, let's face it) can get an attractive woman. The problem is, I don't accept myself. I've been in therapy for a while, but it just doesn't help. Through my own choice, I haven't been on a single date since early Fall.

 

 

I am starting to case less and less about anything. I have my job, have a few close friends, and I go to the gym (for myself), but that's about it. The thoughts of going on a date, trying online dating again or approaching an attractive woman in real life all make me nauseous and make the hair on my arms stand up. The only times I feel a bit stirred are when I see commercials where the guy is proposing to this woman (but usually the guy is tall, that's how he got said woman) or I hear male co-workers talk about their women (again, they're all tall and perfect, since tall = perfection to most women, and I know this).

 

 

I don't want anyone on here to try and convince me that height isn't everything. I already know the critical importance of a man's height in my heart of hearts, and there's nothing anyone can do to convince me otherwise. Regardless of what others think, I don't believe I'm worthy of love from a woman I'd be attracted to and excited about dating. And so I'm just asking how I can just accept being alone forever? What I can do to officially stop caring and not being stirred by other stimuli around me as far as couples, commercials, Valentine's Day, etc.

 

 

Also, please don't give me the "it'll happen when you stop looking/least expect it" routine. That only applies if you're a woman.

[PegNosePete]

I have my job, have a few close friends, and I go to the gym (for myself), but that's about it.

Well, there's your problem.

 

You need to find things you enjoy doing with your life, and do them.

[someguy391]

Well, there's your problem.

 

You need to find things you enjoy doing with your life, and do them.

 

 

 

I have no desire to do anything else. Sorry, but to me (and a lot of other people, but they'll never say it out loud for fear of looking weak) life isn't worth living (in the normal sense) if you're single. We aren't meant to be alone, people need others. However, due to depression and intense self-hatred (due to my height), I know I won't be able to stop the self-hatred in order to find someone. And it's much harder finding a relationship if you're a guy (we have to go through millions of rejections, while still being expected to have impenetrable confidence 24/7/365).

 

 

I'm just done with dating or even the thought of dating or approaching a woman. I can deal with my sexual urges (porn and maybe eventually, call girls), but I need to know how to mentally get 100% comfortable with dying alone.