Vero Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 (edited) This girl (very attractive), who's on my school track team, is kinda obsessed with me. I don't say that to brag or anything, she really is. Our mutual friend told me so, and she always follows and brushes on me during practice, always mentioning my name, and staring at me, running with me; talking, constantly flirting (she even mentioned we were once) etc. Anyway, I like her, but there's a problem: there's another guy in the equation This topic sprang up the other day when I was talking to her, and she mentioned that "it was a summer thing", that they dated a little, and that he was never her boyfriend. Ironically, I have seen a recent Snapchat photo of them together and another of them kissing a while back. This morning, she Snapchatted me, saying that "I have been ignoring her at practice" (I actually have been ignoring her because of the aforementioned situation). I told her it wasn't on purpose. So i offered that we spend some time together and get lunch, but that didn't work out for either of us, so we agreed on going for a morning run tomorrow near her house. Bottom line: I WANT to get with her, but she has relations with another guy. How can I work this out? P.S. This is senior year of high school. This won't be a serious relationship, sort of like the relationship she has with the other dude. P.S.S. She is very quirky and "free-spirited". She is NOT a slut or whore. Advice? Thanks in advance. Edited January 9, 2016 by Vero
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 This girl (very attractive), who's on my school track team, is kinda obsessed with me. I don't say that to brag or anything, she really is. Our mutual friend told me so, and she always follows and brushes on me during practice, always mentioning my name, and staring at me, running with me; talking, constantly flirting (she even mentioned we were once) etc. Anyway, I like her, but there's a problem: there's another guy in the equation This topic sprang up the other day when I was talking to her, and she mentioned that "it was a summer thing", that they dated a little, and that he was never her boyfriend. Ironically, I have seen a recent Snapchat photo of them together and another of them kissing a while back. This morning, she Snapchatted me, saying that "I have been ignoring her at practice" (I actually have been ignoring her because of the aforementioned situation). I told her it wasn't on purpose. So i offered that we spend some time together and get lunch, but that didn't work out for either of us, so we agreed on going for a morning run tomorrow near her house. Bottom line: I WANT to get with her, but she has relations with another guy. How can I work this out? P.S. This is senior year of high school. This won't be a serious relationship, sort of like the relationship she has with the other dude. P.S.S. She is very quirky and "free-spirited". She is NOT a slut or whore. Advice? Thanks in advance. You shouldn't care because she is still free game. If you are not serious about her, then go for it. BUT if you want to be her BF, you are wasting your time....like you said she is a free spirit, she wants to play the field. 1
Buddhist Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Bottom line: I WANT to get with her, but she has relations with another guy. How can I work this out? What you're failing to realise here is that she is someone who monkey grips from one boyfriend to the next, never spending a day in-between on her own. That's not a good situation because it means she's needy and will also monkey grip onto the next guy while she is with you. If she really wanted to be with you, she'd end things with current guy, and then approach you. But she doesn't want to let go of what she has in order to take a risk with you. She wants everything guaranteed. Go there if you want. But don't be disappointed when she starts flirting with and being obsessed with some other guy while she is dating you. Personally I wouldn't be signing up for that. 1
Woggle Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Go ahead and be with her then you be like the other guy you talk about. 1
truth_seeker Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I think the more you ignore her, the more you turn her on. Anyways, she's a player. You catch feelings for her, you'll be in trouble. I suggest waiting a bit longer and hook up with her when the school is just about over. This way the less drama to deal with as you both will be moving on to college. 1
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 This morning, she Snapchatted me, saying that "I have been ignoring her at practice" (I actually have been ignoring her because of the aforementioned situation). I told her it wasn't on purpose. Dude, why did you lie to her? Now you are just going to be her lackey. That's so weak. Man up and tell her no, and tell her why you said no.
Author Vero Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Dude, why did you lie to her? Now you are just going to be her lackey. That's so weak. Man up and tell her no, and tell her why you said no. I don't understand. What would be in it for me to tell her the truth? She can be with any guy she wants, so she's gonna be fine.
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 You want her to desire you more? You need to be less available to her. By telling her that you are not interested in sharing her with someone, increases your value. You are letting her know she CAN'T have any guy she wants. It's you having control over the situation. By sucking up to her and going along with her demands means she has all the control and that you are a push over for a pretty face.
Author Vero Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 You want her to desire you more? You need to be less available to her. By telling her that you are not interested in sharing her with someone, increases your value. You are letting her know she CAN'T have any guy she wants. It's you having control over the situation. By sucking up to her and going along with her demands means she has all the control and that you are a push over for a pretty face. Alright, I agree with you, but we scheduled that run thing tomorrow. Should I still go to that? I have her phone number. Should I call her and tell her everything? Wait?
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I would tell her you have changed your mind and are going to go out with your buds instead. Leave it at that for now...see what happens. 1
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Then later when she complains, you can say "Sure we can hang out sometime if that's what you want, I have np with that, but I'm not going to make a girl a priority if there is another guy in the picture". 1
Author Vero Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Then later when she complains, you can say "Sure we can hang out sometime if that's what you want, I have np with that, but I'm not going to make a girl a priority if there is another guy in the picture". I'm going through with this plan, thanks a lot for your input.
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Best of luck bro.....hope it works for you. Remember it's all about self worth, and bringing up your value. If it doesn't work, so what, you have better things to do than waste your time.....she is just a girl.
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