Forget About Her Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 My ex and i were together for 5 years, lived together for 4. She broke it off, and immediately started dating another guy. They were together for 3-4 months, and when she broke it off with him, she came running back to me. Reluctantly, I gave in and started hanging out with her again, but after about 2 weeks of hanging out, she met some other "great guy" in a club. That was about 2 weeks ago. She called me up and told me that she can't continue hanging out with me because she met this great guy and it was just never going to work between us. I was so upset, crying, begging...everything I went through the first time we broke up. Well, I managed to find out who this guy is. He's a good looking guy, literally a foot taller than me, and an all-star athlete at a Division 3 college. She's actually flying him in from his college to come stay with her for a week. After hearing all this, it made me upset, but I think I am finally starting to accept it more. I actually just found out about this 30 minutes ago, so I may still be in a little shock and not feel the full effect yet. I really hope this doesn't send me into another depression. Any positive words of encouragement or advice on this situation?
beesknees Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 Oh, FAH. So sorry to hear about what you're going through. Sounds like you're better off without her. She wanted to keep you as a safety net incase it didn't work out when she went out and sowed her oats. It's terribly cruel to do to someone. I know it hurts badly, but you have to move on, and don't let her come back, unless you want to keep going through this over and over again. You deserve far better!!
Author Forget About Her Posted June 4, 2005 Author Posted June 4, 2005 Thanks bee. Believe me, I won't be taking her back again. I'm not going to do this to myself a third time. But it still hurts knowing the girl i spent a fifth of my lifetime with is alreay banging some other guy after 2 weeks of knowing him, flying him out to see her, etc. Although its not too bad right now, I just don't want it to get worse as the day goes on. But it really does hurt
Raindrop100 Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 Originally posted by beesknees Oh, FAH. So sorry to hear about what you're going through. Sounds like you're better off without her. She wanted to keep you as a safety net incase it didn't work out when she went out and sowed her oats. It's terribly cruel to do to someone. I know it hurts badly, but you have to move on, and don't let her come back, unless you want to keep going through this over and over again. You deserve far better!! Oh, dear, I really understand what kind of pain you are going through. I agree with Beesknees, you gotta be strong, move on and do well (That's the best revenge to people who treated you this way). Don't ever let her hurt you again. Best Wishes...
westernxer Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 He's a Division III athlete? That's practically high school... probably had to pay to join the team.
alphamale Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer He's a Division III athlete? That's practically high school... probably had to pay to join the team. and pay 4 his own equip/uniform. what round do u think he'll go in the draft?
westernxer Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale and pay 4 his own equip/uniform. what round do u think he'll go in the draft? God help him if he's a hockey player... it's over.
Author Forget About Her Posted June 4, 2005 Author Posted June 4, 2005 Haha,thanks guys for making me feel better. It just sucks, b/c the guy is really good looking, and almost a foot taller than me! I know I'm probably being ridiculous about this whole situation, but it sucks to know she is already sleeping with someone else AGAIN! He would make number 20 on her list, although she tells these guys she's only been with 6 guys ever, lol. I'm just hoping I don't' start pondering on this sh*t later, and get depressed about it. I mean jesus, two weeks and she's already flying him in! This guy must have a cock the size of a telephone poll...puts me to shame, lol.
westernxer Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 So what if he's tall and good looking... doesn't mean a thing. Don't get an inferior complex over it. Some people are lucky enough to look like a god... that's just the way it is. I wouldn't take her back if I were you, even after she gets bitten in the ass. That's what I call playing God... you don't even have to look like one to play the part, as long as you hold the cards.
Author Forget About Her Posted June 4, 2005 Author Posted June 4, 2005 Thanks wes... I know she has a lot of issues, and has sex b/c it makes her feel wanted. her dad wasn't around when she was growing up, so she has attachment issues, and gets infatuated very quickly. I feel very lucky to know I no longer have to deal with her issues and problems, but I still care about her. I really appreciate you guys making me feel better. If I can make it through the next couple of days without getting depressed over the fact she is sleeping with someone new and flying him to see her, i should be fine. I just hope I can make it!
westernxer Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 Just stay away from her and her issues... She'll eat you alive, because she's unstable. You can't rescue people like that. They have to rescue themselves. Besides, why should you have to rescue someone? It's not fair.
Author Forget About Her Posted June 4, 2005 Author Posted June 4, 2005 I know that you're right. I spent 5 years rescuing her, and I thought I had succeeded, but I guess I really didn't. She's not independant at all. She NEEDS to be with a guy. She was a stripper for 3 years, former coke addict, and very sexually permiscuous, as you can tell from my other post. Everyone, including my parents, tell me that she has a lot of problems, but I guess my feelings for her blind me and I just can't see them. I just see her as Laura, not a stripper, not a former coke-head, just Laura. I guess when you get so attached to someone you don't see them for what they really are, maybe?
westernxer Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 Originally posted by Forget About Her She was a stripper for 3 years, former coke addict... Oh, she's perfectly normal, then. (I'm saying this will a smirk on my face)
westernxer Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 At least she's not a heroin addict, or a serial killer. Go find a nice girl. You know, one who will break your heart without all the vices attached.
Author Forget About Her Posted June 4, 2005 Author Posted June 4, 2005 HAHAHAHA... I know I know I know...What the hell am I thinking? I just see past it all. I know that anyone who used coke and stripped has some serious issues, but I just don't want to believe it. I want to think that she resolved the issues that caused her to do those things. She has progressed a lot from those times. She now has a Masters degree, and a really good job. But do issues that cause you to be a stripper really ever go away?
westernxer Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 Originally posted by Forget About Her But do issues that cause you to be a stripper really ever go away? Not in her case, apparently.
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