TheArtist Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 While I've been pretty lucky with first dates I'm sure that there are some of you out there that had some hilarious/traumatic mishaps while trying to impress a potential partner. Maybe it went wrong before you even set off? Did your date end up pushing your piece of junk car? Maybe the apple juice you bought was too sour for your already upset stomach and you had to keep going to the bathroom to splash water on your face... yeah. And most importantly, did you have a second date? Tell us!
Amelie1980 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 One brought a food test saying if I didnt like it we werent right for each other. I did like it. He said that's a pass. I thought it was a joke at the time and I went along with it but with hindsight I thought hang on...if I like the food, then what? I may continue to impress him?! What is he doing to impress me. I thought maybe it was selfish and a red flag for him to be testing my suitability for him so soon and doing nothing much to impress me. I was right. He was very selfish. 2
JGirl83 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 A guy bringing up rape, and how all women fantasize about being raped.. Another guy was an hour late for the date. We had a few drinks and then went onto a cheesy club that had old school music night on. He became more physical -grabbing me- the more he drank so i said i was going home. He got angry. He followed me down the street yelling- 'you think you just do what you want'? Kept phoning me that night and did apologise but still, there was no way i could see him again. 2
Author TheArtist Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 (edited) Blimey, JGirl, that's just creepy! Amelie, a food test is something I might have to incorporate! Edited January 9, 2016 by TheArtist
Amelie1980 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 (edited) Blimey, JGirl, that's just creepy! Amelie, a food test is something I might have to incorporate! Dont. I went along with it, thinking it was just light hearted. But his behavior later on (we met a few more times) showed me he was nothing but a selfsih pig who thought of nothing but himself. Think about it: a man taking a woman on a first date and taking a food test to see if he thinks I am right for him? Jesus H Christ, did he not think to do something to impress me? Consider if he was right for me? All he thought of was himself. That didnt come out for a while but the test was a warning to me in hindsight...all about him. Edited January 9, 2016 by Amelie1980 1
GemmaUK Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Mine was someone I met on OLD. I had messaged him to say I would be late which he was OK with. I got to the bar and did three circuits round the place and couldn't see him so I figured he had left. There were very few people in there and it was obvious he wasn't there. I went to walk out of the place and someone called my name out. It was a guy stood at the bar who I had walked past three times. He was my date but he looked nothing like his pictures and had gained around 5 stone since the pics had been taken. He also lied about his age by 6 years. We got drinks and sat down and he immediately told me he had been having an affair with a married woman for the past 4 years. The married couple moved out to Singapore for the husband's work and my date had followed them out there to continue the affair. The affair came out, the husband ditched the wife, the wife and my date moved in together and lasted three months until she kicked him out and he came back to the UK. The next topic of conversation was that he didn't believe Michael Jackson was dead - my date was a conspiracy theorist. We did actually have a conversation a bit later. He said he needed cigarettes and so I told him where nearby convenience stores were. He had lived in my town as a teen and these kind of shops didn't exist at that point round here. Somehow, out of the blue and mid conversation he just came out with 'I'm rampant and I like a lot of sex'. I didn't really know what to say to this and he then went over the road to get his cigarettes. While he was gone I quickly drank my drink and then when he got back I said it was home time for me as I had to be up early the next day. He drank up and we walked out of the place. We both had to walk the same direction, him to the station, me to my place. He offered to walk me home to which I declined and I then said thanks for the night and it was nice to meet him but that I wasn't interested in meeting again. He then asked if he could just come back for sex. Which I also declined. Then next morning at 7am he texts me asking for a second date..... Er...I didn't accept... 3
Author TheArtist Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Dont. I went along with it, thinking it was just light hearted. But his behavior later on (we met a few more times) showed me he was nothing but a selfsih pig who thought of nothing but himself. Think about it: a man taking a woman on a first date and taking a food test to see if he thinks I am right for him? Jesus H Christ, did he not think to do something to impress me? Consider if he was right for me? All he thought of was himself. That didnt come out for a while but the test was a warning to me in hindsight...all about him. Oh don't worry, I'm only joking!
Author TheArtist Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 He offered to walk me home to which I declined and I then said thanks for the night and it was nice to meet him but that I wasn't interested in meeting again. He then asked if he could just come back for sex. Which I also declined Sounds more like he should have offered to chase you home instead... I knew there would be some creepy stuff showing up but I didn't expect it so soon in the post! Some people are really odd!
introverted1 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I must either do too much pre-screening or not enough dating because I don't have any good first date stories. My bad ones have just been boring, but not OTT in any way. Perhaps because I don't OLD so I already have some sense of what the guy will be like. Gemma - 5 extra stones?!?! :eek:
Amelie1980 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Mine was someone I met on OLD. I had messaged him to say I would be late which he was OK with. I got to the bar and did three circuits round the place and couldn't see him so I figured he had left. There were very few people in there and it was obvious he wasn't there. I went to walk out of the place and someone called my name out. It was a guy stood at the bar who I had walked past three times. He was my date but he looked nothing like his pictures and had gained around 5 stone since the pics had been taken. He also lied about his age by 6 years. We got drinks and sat down and he immediately told me he had been having an affair with a married woman for the past 4 years. The married couple moved out to Singapore for the husband's work and my date had followed them out there to continue the affair. The affair came out, the husband ditched the wife, the wife and my date moved in together and lasted three months until she kicked him out and he came back to the UK. The next topic of conversation was that he didn't believe Michael Jackson was dead - my date was a conspiracy theorist. We did actually have a conversation a bit later. He said he needed cigarettes and so I told him where nearby convenience stores were. He had lived in my town as a teen and these kind of shops didn't exist at that point round here. Somehow, out of the blue and mid conversation he just came out with 'I'm rampant and I like a lot of sex'. I didn't really know what to say to this and he then went over the road to get his cigarettes. While he was gone I quickly drank my drink and then when he got back I said it was home time for me as I had to be up early the next day. He drank up and we walked out of the place. We both had to walk the same direction, him to the station, me to my place. He offered to walk me home to which I declined and I then said thanks for the night and it was nice to meet him but that I wasn't interested in meeting again. He then asked if he could just come back for sex. Which I also declined. Then next morning at 7am he texts me asking for a second date..... Er...I didn't accept... I would have ran away from the pub when he went out to get his cigarettes. I wouldnt have waited lol. 1
No_Go Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I wanted to date this young guy who presented himself as business owner. We set date and time. Hours before he said he needs to run errands and rescheduled for 2-3 h later. Half an hour before he rescheduled again due to "bad traffic". He arrived at the coffee shop, we each bought our own coffee and the next 2 h he blurbed about his failing business and his life with mommy & daddy because it didn't make sense for 27yo to move out according to him. He basically wasted my whole day with his reschedulings to end with this "exciting" conversation... While I've been pretty lucky with first dates I'm sure that there are some of you out there that had some hilarious/traumatic mishaps while trying to impress a potential partner. Maybe it went wrong before you even set off? Did your date end up pushing your piece of junk car? Maybe the apple juice you bought was too sour for your already upset stomach and you had to keep going to the bathroom to splash water on your face... yeah. And most importantly, did you have a second date? Tell us! 1
campeo Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 It wasn't the first date. It was the tenth, two months in. I went into the date wanting to have a conversation about how she talked about her ex boyfriend too much. This wasn't apparent on the first few dates, but it was increasing. I was hoping to have some fun first and rebuild a connection and talk about it when I dropped her off, but it was more of the same. Me: we should go hiking before it gets too hot. Her: Yes, but if we go hiking, one thing my ex did that always pissed me off was ____. You have to promise you won't do that. Me: I'm thinking of entering a mountain bike race next weekend. Her: My ex and I used to ride bikes. One thing that always pissed me off was ____. Me: I have plenty of fast friends to ride with. If I asked you to ride with me, I wouldn't do that. Her: if you asked, I'd say no. Me: I don't want to fight with my coworker over who gets the first international rotation. Her: you have to f--- people over or be f---ed over in this industry. Even my ex didn't support me in my career (they were coworkers.) Me (on the drive home): Her: I've just been really depressed all week thinking about my last relationship, the reasons why it ended, and what I want in my next relationship. Even though I ended it, I got really hurt. I don't want to get hurt again. I guess I'm not over him" I thought it was a breakup, but she gave me a quick kiss and jumped out of the car. Somewhere in all that, she did act interested in me. I was supposed to work a 6 week on, 6 week off rotation for 3-4 months. She had travelled the world recently and was excited for me to do so rather than wary I'd be gone. She asked "have you decided what you are going to do on your time off?" "Instead of a big trip, maybe I'll road trip across the country to see my old college friends who have dispersed - meet their spouses and their children - because I'll never have the time to do that again. Maybe along the way I'll swing through Colorado and see if I can work something out with my guiding friend where I work for him as an assistant guide on a backcountry backpacking trip." I book custom trips with my friend, but both him and his wife have said "if you're ever working a rotation and bumming around out West, hit us up. We'd love to find a way for you to come work for us." Her response: "there is nothing more unattractive than when someone like you is so cheap." I tried to explain the context, but she cut me off. "Don't even try to justify it. God. What are you going to say? That it's the principal of the thing? You know, you're doing really well at your employer. How much money do you make, anyway? What are you doing driving a 10 year old car." I wish it had been the first date so I could have ran before developing feelings. In hindsight, I did ignore a bunch of red flags. 1
Leucine Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I must do enough pre-screening because I don't have any bad first date stories, they've all been fun and civilised. One particular date itself went well and when I asked her whether she would like to meet up again she politely declined, saying that "we are too similar", but I wouldn't classify that as bad or anything. 1
Haydn Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 13 years old. Quick Milkshake at Mcdonalds. Movie at the local. Mum picked us up, dropped home `Fleur` Her mother invited us in... Fleur`s mother was clearly insane. `She addressed my `half cut` mother. (never good) `What are your sons intentions with my daughter?` (WTF) My Mum, lit a ciggie and smiled unpleasantly......(Not her finest moment) We were out the door after that. In the car i told Mum. `I really like her` Nasty laugh... `Son you saw her Mother` `Yes Mum, she saw you too` Well on a happier note. Fleur became a good friend later on in life. My Mum and hers often meet at `Bingo` and slag each other off. Wonderful.
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