struass Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 So, a few months ago I notice a new women at work. She's is super attractive but it became clear very quickly she lived with someone and was about 10 years younger so totally out of bounce. Fast forward to the week before Xmas and we happened to be on the same night out. We got chatting and before I knew we were in a club dancing and flirting. She left at the end and I just assumed it was a good night .... End of. Half an hour later I had 2 messages from her on linked in and we spoke constantly in work the next 2 days. When I finished up for xmas she gave me her number and told me to call her. Since that day we gave spoken everyday and send lots of texts each day. We've met a few times had very passionate kisses and she had spoken of wanting to get to know me etc. She has also explained her home situation and that her relationship is pretty much over and she's looking to move back home. On the face of it, all seems good but I just get the feeling something isn't right. We've arranged for proper dates 3 times but she's cancelled at the last minute each time using work , family as excuses! I really don't want to get drawn into something where it just a one way thing and I end up getting hurt. Should I just distance myself a little and let her do all the chasing and see what happens? I like thus girl so not sure what's best.
Wewon Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 So, a few months ago I notice a new women at work. She's is super attractive but it became clear very quickly she lived with someone and was about 10 years younger so totally out of bounce. ... On the face of it, all seems good but I just get the feeling something isn't right. We've arranged for proper dates 3 times but she's cancelled at the last minute each time using work , family as excuses! I really don't want to get drawn into something where it just a one way thing and I end up getting hurt. Should I just distance myself a little and let her do all the chasing and see what happens? I like thus girl so not sure what's best. If you don't want to get drawn into something you should quit now. She's living with someone, she cancels dates, this is a classic case of making you the side-person.
BetrayedH Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 If you don't want to get drawn into something you should quit now. She's living with someone, she cancels dates, this is a classic case of making you the side-person. Agreed. Make it clear that you'd be happy to properly date her when she's not living with someone else. She'll either clean up that baggage or she'll keep it. It sounds like she needs an example of someone with integrity anyway. By the way, this is a red flag. Take note. If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you. Ignore at your peril and don't be surprised when it happens.
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