Arnzy Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Hi! We have been friends for like 2 years. Suddenly, she was so interested in me. I had some feelings too, so we started going out and things like that. We had sex on our second date. At the beginning i acted like an alpha male. But she started to lose her interest. Then i was myself, romantic guy, this made things a little bit better but she still lost her interest. I think the reason is she wasn't and still isn't completely over her ex. She had some depressing moments, missed her ex and of course she didn't think about me. And now she said that she had so strong feelings, but lost them and wants to be friends again. If there were strong feelings, never seen someone physically so attracted to me, is there any way to get that spark back? We don't have common friends, so we don't meet, only if we go out together. But we text everyday. Before this thing, we texted almost every day and only in the evening. I don't know, no contact? less attention to her?
Poutrew Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Sorry dude, but it sounds like she just used you to scratch an itch. Look at it this way, if she'd used Calamine lotion, your wouldn't have even gotten as far as you did...just put another notch in your belt and call it all good times... 1
scooby-philly Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Look, You didn't give a whole ton of information. But, based on what you did share I'd agree with the first (and only response thus far) - there's something going on here that's stopping her - could be her ex, could be she realized you weren't what she's looking for, you could have confused her by the switch from alpha to romantic, etc. But - one way or the other it's gotten to a point where she's made it almost crystal clear that she's not interested. Give yourself some dignity and yes, chalk it up as fun and move on.
Author Arnzy Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 I’m cool with that. I’m not needy or desperate with her. I will try with other girls too but i don’t want to cut off this option completely. After dates, she said how good these were and she liked, but then went home and cried almost all night because of her ex. She always said, that she isn't ready yet, but same time wanted to be with me. And then she said, that things are getting harder and harder every day, her ex was in her mind 24/7. I really want to try once more. Is it possible? Because she hasn't anyone in her mind at the moment, her ex yes, but he is far away. She knows i have feelings for her. I think, i try to not contact her or if she does it, then keep it positive, but minimal. May be for a week? Then she starts to miss me a little bit and then i text her and push right buttons. I do it anyway, i did it once with her, i knew what i was doing. But any good tips that i should try?
Poutrew Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Dude, I understand. She is good sex...but nope. She already told you she has only eyes for her ex. Sometimes, it's just better to just walk away. This is one of those times...unless you are content to be her emotional tampon, to be called upon only during those certain times of the month...
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