Ughhhhhhhhh just need to vent here!

[Itsfriday]

Been tryna see if I can get back with an ex. And I have no idea what's in this girls head. She's been messaging me since December on and off. Then wanted to talk, telling me about not sure about me and her later, then messaging me on and off again just asking questions.

 

Idk she seems interested sometimes, then she doesn't. Ik that's a common thing from the threads I've been reading. So after talking a few times she said we might meet up sometime. She never follow throughed. I asked her if she wanted to then she said yes then when I asked her to confirm she say she's busy whenever she has free time.

 

So after hinting she wanted to reconcile she says she doesn't know. Now I'm just confused because I don't think I will meet her anytime soon.

 

I had some things to say to her.

 

Should I wait a while and send it through text??

Or just send it and get it over with?

 

I wanted to tell her in person that's why I want to wait a bit.

[DrMario]

I would just leave it alone, unless this girl meant an awful lot to you at some point, unless she can give you her time, what kind of relationship would you guys even have?

[anonymousbear00101100]

I would just say nothing to her. Again. Ever.

 

Show her that you're moving on with your life. If she texts you, don't reply. If she keeps texting tell her to go away or just block her. Accept nothing less than "I want to get back together with you."

 

I know the urge to text her is strong. You think you might have those magic words perfectly written out, and if she just knows them then she'll take you back. But nothing you say is going to make her be like "I definitely want to be with this guy."

 

Just move on from her. Start NC right now. No last words. No goodbyes. Just let her float off into the distance.

 

You know in curling when the thrower is holding onto the rock, almost as if the rock is dragging them along. Then all of a sudden the person just let's go of the rock, and it gracefully slides away, and the thrower slows down and watches it drift away. Then they turn around and go get a new rock. Had they held onto that first rock, they would have been dragged by it until being forced to let go when they hit the boards. No first rock. No new rock. Lot's of shame. Maybe even physical injury.

 

My ex bet I couldn't make a curling metaphor on a relationship website. I proved her wrong!

 

But seriously. Messaging her now or soon is not what will win her back, and it is definitely not what will help you move on.

[BrokenN]

I'm in the same boat as you op. Just last week she's talking about would you marry me and having kids. Then this week I can hardly get 5 minutes on the phone with her cause she sooo busy. They're just playing with our heads and hearts. So true what the previous poster said, we know what we have to do, but when they say things that keep us still hooked is when those damn feelings start to F with us.. NC I haven't started yet but it seems to be the only thing for us bro.