bringthepain Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 This has mostly likely been asked here before but please bear with me. I've started a new job, and this week I was in training with people from all over the organization. This girl, who I was dying to talk to, engaged me in a quick conversation towards the end of the last day. I had never met her and there were 35 of us, so I didn't have an opportunity earlier. I'm not sure that I made a good or bad impression in our brief conversation, but I'd love to talk to her more. Unfortunately, the training is done and we work in different locations. I'm fairly inexperienced with dating, and I'm wondering if sending her an e-mail through the company would be too odd. However, it's extremely unlikely that I'll see her anytime soon and I don't see another way. I'm wondering how others might proceed, and if you were to send an e-mail, what you might say? Any help is much appreciated.
Maggie4 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 tell her it was a pleasure meeting her and that you enjoyed chatting with her, and that it would be nice to get together again, for a lunch or coffee. Then give her your contact info. 1
mrldii Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 "It was great meeting you at the training. It was/wasn't very informative, huh? I am/am not finding any of it uselful now that I'm in front of my desk using it. How 'bout you?" It's an *excuse* to initiate contact/conversation. If she's got any social skills, she'll see it as such. Depending on how she responds, you should get a good indication if she'd enjoy continued contact with you, or not. Good luck, OP! 1
Author bringthepain Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Thanks for the responses. I'm a little apprehensive - seeing as I would have not her info if I didn't search the e-mail database for the company. We mostly only communicate with supervisors, and not so much for staff-to-staff or social communication (and we work in different areas). I guess if she's also interested than she wouldn't really care. If not, I don't want to come off as a bit of a creep, especially if in 3 months we are working together more often (the nature of my job means that I work at many different locations). She's stationed at one of them but there's a slight chance we might run into one another at some point in the future. But I also think it's probably worth the risk; and if she's not interested, the outcome is most likely less awkward or embarrassing than it actually is. Anyways, thanks again!
truth_seeker Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 As long as you're not asking her out on a date, there's nothing to be worried about. You're just saying hello, being friendly. If she isn't receptive to your email, brush it off as it was nothing when you see her again. Remember: you're not asking her out. You're just sending a friendly message. Get that in your head. 1
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 This has mostly likely been asked here before but please bear with me. I've started a new job, and this week I was in training with people from all over the organization. This girl, who I was dying to talk to, engaged me in a quick conversation towards the end of the last day. I had never met her and there were 35 of us, so I didn't have an opportunity earlier. I'm not sure that I made a good or bad impression in our brief conversation, but I'd love to talk to her more. Unfortunately, the training is done and we work in different locations. I'm fairly inexperienced with dating, and I'm wondering if sending her an e-mail through the company would be too odd. However, it's extremely unlikely that I'll see her anytime soon and I don't see another way. I'm wondering how others might proceed, and if you were to send an e-mail, what you might say? Any help is much appreciated. Yes it's odd if she doesn't really know who you are. You had every opportunity to talk to her during the breaks at the training. I think you should spend your time meeting and chatting with women at social events, parties, through friends, etc. to build up your confidence so you don't miss out on any more opportunities.
mortensorchid Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 I don't think I would ask someone that via company email. You can send her an email through company email saying here is my cell / personal email, can I have yours? If she responds by giving it to you, you can then ask to meet through that.
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