hopelessromanticxo Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 (edited) My ex-boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago. We both turned 20 last year and we dated for 6 years - and he broke up with me over the phone after spending the day together (a day which seemed perfectly normal). No explanation was given other than "he just wasn't feeling it anymore." Our relationship was really good for the most part, but we mostly fought about him giving attention to other girls or him not making an effort to plan dates for us. He did cheat on me over 2 years ago (not physical, I would say emotionally) but I found out and we got past it, so I thought. We've broken up twice in high school. One reason was "I need to see what else is out there" before he left for college but ended up coming back to me a week later. I'm gonna be honest, I have been depressed the past 4 months. We were in strict NC until Thanksgiving (3.5 months). I unfriended him on every social media site. He reached out to me shortly after to meet up to talk about our relationship and he told me it was because I prioritized him too much and he wanted to spend time doing other things and not having to worry about me being unhappy. He apologized a million times for breaking up with me the way he did, he just said he didn't want to see me cry. He's admitted he has cried many times over it, thinks about me often, and told me that his life is not better without me but he agrees we have both grown from our situation. He is interested in dating another girl (they've been on three dates but he doesn't think it will progress into anything) - but during our talk, he was talking about how much he missed having sex with me and how beautiful I am and how he never doubted for a second that I would find another guy that treated me better than he did. In his words "I thought being single would be fun but it's not." He told me he doesn't think we should get back together but his eyes were not saying that.. He always finds reasons to touch me - my arm, my leg, my shoulder, my head.. I feel like he's always staring at me whenever we're in the same room with our friends, he never leaves my side. His body language and actions just completely contradicts what he says and I am so confused. I guess I just want advice on how I should go about this. Deep down, I miss our relationship and I wish things were different. I would be willing to reconcile but I think he's either 1. scared to admit that he messed up or 2. he actually just wants to be friends. I'm not even looking at dating other guys because I'm not interested. I find myself just wanting to talk to him all the time, but I don't. We text about twice a week and our conversations are really friendly and funny - we joke around like we used to. He was my first love and I really don't want to stay broken up forever. Any advice is greatly appreciated, whether you think I should just move on and forget about him or if I should try to get him back. Thanks so much in advance for any responses. Edited January 8, 2016 by hopelessromanticxo
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