Author chronicling Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) I'm sorry, but I just can't seem to agree that being violent towards a partner is ALWAYS wrong. Like, you can't just ignore the context. What if a woman walked in on her husband cheating with another woman? Would it be wrong of her to then retaliate by slapping him or something? What if its slightly deserved. I 100% agree that the "innocent" one in the situation should not receive the physical abuse - but what if it's the cunt receiving it? (I mean something like a slap, or a bite - not battering or repetitively striking). Edited January 10, 2016 by chronicling
Versacehottie Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 well we aren't talking about generalized hypothetical situations, we are talking about your specific one. I think we (all?) think you are wrong for doing it. Doesn't mean your gf isn't a pain in the ass or annoying, but you can't justify what you do physically. The police would arrest you for either of those. And be real, if you are doing it because you lose control, what's to stop you from doing "more" than you already do? I really don't know why you are trying to fight this fight with a bunch of internet strangers. I was kind of on your side emotionally and wanted to be neutral enough that you could "hear" some of the things being said or at least see it from your point of view. But then you come back with more trying to justify the violence and the stuff above where you say she pretty much demeans you in every way but yet you still love her. This is a toxic relationship.
Author chronicling Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 well we aren't talking about generalized hypothetical situations, we are talking about your specific one. I think we (all?) think you are wrong for doing it. Doesn't mean your gf isn't a pain in the ass or annoying, but you can't justify what you do physically. The police would arrest you for either of those. And be real, if you are doing it because you lose control, what's to stop you from doing "more" than you already do? I really don't know why you are trying to fight this fight with a bunch of internet strangers. I was kind of on your side emotionally and wanted to be neutral enough that you could "hear" some of the things being said or at least see it from your point of view. But then you come back with more trying to justify the violence and the stuff above where you say she pretty much demeans you in every way but yet you still love her. This is a toxic relationship. The police in the UK would not arrest me for biting my girlfriend. My friend had been in that situation with her gf. They see it as wasting police time. If I had battered her, it would be a different situation. I don't disagree that the relationship is toxic.
Author chronicling Posted January 10, 2016 Author Posted January 10, 2016 I will not be adding any more replies to this thread and will ask for it to be closed. I've come to my own conclusion, anyway: I am in the wrong for attacking her on the 4 occasions. She is is the wrong for the way she treats and speaks to me. She is overreacting, considering how infrequently I retaliate in relation to how often I have to deal with being treated and spoken to badly, and the pettiness of the retaliations (I don't attack HARD) I believe that her reaction to me biting her is to punish me because she enjoys the control, not because she actually feels threatened or is upset by it. I still maintain that she is lesser the "victim" in the situation than I am. The relationship is toxic and should probably cease to exist. I should have taken the time to come to my own conclusion, without asking strangers for advice on a relationship that they cannot SEE.
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